on 21 December 2008
I personally believe that every child is special and often their behavior is as a result of environmental conditioning, including peer pressure and parental identification. The mind is a wonderful thing, and its ability to rationalise is how it ensures the survival of the human body it inhabits. In other words, I believe that nobody is born evil- and contradictory as it may sound- that it is frequently in the research for love and appreciation that humans take the highway towards it. If the human soul could be validated any other way, the evil road is one it would never even consider. And bullying is evil by its very nature. Yet, the bully is not, by virtue of the soul within it.
That's why I like the approach of this book. The author's keenness to protect the victim is only matched by her determination to eradicate the ill from the bully, by fundamentally changing his/her mindset in a lasting way.
Another element of the book I really like is the detailed advice on how to develop assertiveness in a child, along with anger management and very essentially, negotiation skills. The reality remains that children prepare for the outside world, through the skills taught them at home. Unfortunately there are no failsafe all-embracing parenting manuals that give parents/carers a step-by-step guide on handling every detail of experience with their child, to guarantee the child develops into a positive, inspiring, hero. But there are books, such as this that give detailed advice on HOW to guarantee the child is positioned with the right mental mindset, to ensure its place in society, through a behavioral combination of empathy, strength and the ability to inspire trust.
A very good read. And very practical. I loved it.