on 29 August 2002
Two significant problems I had with this book. First of all I think the author has tried to cover too much in too short a space and has skimmed over a number of situations you may need help with rather than give more thorough advice with a fewer number of scenarios. What is left is a book that doesn't cover enough of any area. I think Don would have been better concentrating on certain aspects of meeting people, such as strangers and casual aquaintences. I think there must be loads to write on that area alone.
Secondly, I think there are some very significant differences in social behaviour between UK and US and this book is obviously more suitable for American readers. Some of the tips I would imagine are very useful but in the UK I don't think they would go down very well. Personally, I wish I hadn't bought it.
on 8 October 2008
The easiest way to get to know people is through conversation. Don Gabor outlines the basics of engaging in conversation, and provides tips and techniques to help you overcome initial shyness, ease your way into good conversations and, thereby enhance your business and social life. He applies plenty of practical troubleshooting advice to many typical conversational scenarios, and points out some potential roadblocks that can impede good conversation. Before you even open your mouth, you need to become aware of your body language and that of others. Gabor suggests ways to build up your sensitivity to nonverbal communication so you can apply various conversational techniques, such as "active listening" and scoping for "hot button" topics to start, build up and maintain a dialogue. getAbstract recommends this primer as a quick boost to help you reach out and connect with people in all settings.