This book is very special. Every new mother would benefit from this wise and kindly approach.
For the first time the difficulties and problems - the suffering of new mothers faced with completely unknown territory is examined. By using the voices of many `Mothers Talking' we begin to realize that `failure' and `not understanding' is part of the process.
The more I read, the more I felt that the issue was a spiritual one. Not only does the young mother discover to her surprise that she has fallen deeply in love with her new baby - but she grows to see that her baby not only needs her but also truly loves her. This love, flowing between mother and baby, provides the extra energy for them to overcome the difficulties and the burdens of tiredness they both face.
By understanding this key concept the mother gains in confidence and knowledge such that she can throw away any rule books, and check out any advice without feeling it to be criticism. This knowledge permits her to see how vital she is for the development of her little baby. Further, as she feels free to concentrate on this mind/body connection, this love grows and resonates between them ; feedback then generates more and more useful energy to the benefit of both. Both can then feel secure - both gain a tranquillity and bloom.
No longer is she `only a mother' she is the provider of the template of a loving relationship which empowers the baby for all subsequent relationships in his life.
This book sets mothers free to trust themselves and be proud of their role. If only I had been blessed with this many years ago! At least I can give it to my own daughters. Made me laugh a lot too........................