I bought this book off the back of an emotional meltdown. I was looking
for something to show me, or at least help me, grow up and stop behaving
like a teenage girl.
I've bought so many books in the last few years about commitment issues,
how to get closer etc etc.. but none of them had any lasting affect on my life.
Then I stumbled on this title. It instantly jumped out at me as I knew I
hadn't been behaving like an adult. I'm human, I mess things up. I had lost
someone that I dearly loved and cherished - I knew it was time to look at
my part in the mess and admit that I had to change.
There are very few books that I can honestly say have changed my life, but
this book has played a big part in my change. It's been a slow and at times
painful bitter pill to swallow, but it has been the pill I needed. It's frank,
clear and precise without being cruel or stamp snidey stereo
types onto the sexes.
There are so many books about relationships and they seem to paint a broad
stroke of inequality over them. David Richo doesn't doesn't do that, he
doesn't put people into neat little boxes. He does however go into depth
about why we should be nicer to everyone (including ourselves). Talking
about the five "A's" - Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection
and finally Allowing.
He breaks the journey down - from getting together initially, having
conflict, growing apart, breaking up or down, accepting ourselves and
then getting back together unified and more loving.
At times there is a romantic element to his writing, but I relished
it and found him warm and sincere. This is a book for people wanting
to live life to the full and love more along the way. He keeps it
simple yet detailed enough to really make you think.
Spirituality and Love is a paradox after all.