The author, Lise Pyles, and I have known each other most of our lives. We were best friends in elementary school and lived just across the street from each other. Interestingly, we both had children diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, which kind of makes me wonder about whether environmental factors might contribute to the rise of this condition, since we both drank the same water growing up.
Lise and I lost touch throughout much of our adult lives, but when we reconnected some years ago, she was a wonderful source of support to me while I was homeschooling my daughter. (My kid is the one in the book who loved mules, when all the other little girls were into horses.) Every time I would email Lise, wondering whether I was doing the right thing or if I was on the right track, Lise would write back with positive observations that I had not been able to make myself. That's because I was in the thick of it--the everyday challenges of homeschooling made it hard for me to step back and make observations about the overall progress that was happening.
What I loved about Lise's book when it was later published is that it was just like the actual conversations we'd had, by email and in person, about homeschooling an Aspy. She is a practical, down-to-earth person who can wisely see how Asperger kids are able to flourish when they're taught at home, without the distractions, transitions, and other challenges that occur at school.
I'm happy to report that after about five years of homeschooling, my daughter was able to handle the social challenges of attending a private alternative school. The years when we home schooled prepared her for going out into the larger world. In her school, where they practice democratic decision-making and where students initiate their own learning experiences, my daughter has continued to grow socially. As with many Asperger kids, we never had to worry about my daughter's academic abilities, but we did wonder if she would be able to stand being in a room full of other people, and now she can do that and fully participate in school meetings. She has important jobs at school and at home, and we don't really worry about whether she'll be able to function as a working adult in a few years.
Lise's earlier book, "Hitchhiking Through Asperger Syndrome," also helped prepare me for the possibility that some years it may be better to home school my daughter and other times it may be better for her to be in a school setting. That's what I like about Lise's practical approach and advice. She advocates that you stay in tune with your child's needs and continue to evaluate how to get those needs met. I think this is a realistic approach, because there is no one-size-fits-all solution for how to educate your child.