I first read holding the man approx 10 years ago, it made such a profound difference to my life. Written with such honesty, humour and above all LOVE!! Reading about Tim and John was an honour, I advise anyone who looks on gay relationships with anything less than a healthy respect to read this book, It shows how fantastically natural the love between 2 men can be. I thoroughly recommend it to young gay men to read as a source of encouragement anf hope, because I promise you, nothing seems more natural than the love these 2 men shared. Have read it countless times since then, and am always left with a nice warm feeling in my heart and with hope that a profound love exists for us all.