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Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.
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27 of 27 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Having read just about every self-help book written about relationships, I cannot recommend this book highly enough.
I feel as if Stepen Carter has handed me the universal secret.
This book is excellent for anybody who has a poor track record in relationships. I read it with a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I was there on every page, as was every 'short-term' partner I have had over the last 10 years.
Most of the knowledge in this book is stuff you proabably already knew, but nobody ever actually told you. But Stephen Carter writes so succinctly, from his own disfunctional experiences.
If you have felt for some time that there was something wrong, but have the type of kind, caring, friends in committed relationships who tell you that you just havent met the 'right one' then read on. This book will not tell you how to change or give you the answers, but it will describe you on every page (scarey stuff!)
To find the true answers on how to change yourself, then you will need to read Getting To Committment, also by Stephen Carter.
Remember, we cannot change others, only ourselves. But by making these simple changes, (which will not always be easy!), you will attract the right sort of person into your life.
This book should be compulsory reading for anyone who has struggled to understand a difficult partner, but be aware, you may not get the answers you were looking for!
Totally eye-opening and highly recommended
I feel as if Stepen Carter has handed me the universal secret.
This book is excellent for anybody who has a poor track record in relationships. I read it with a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I was there on every page, as was every 'short-term' partner I have had over the last 10 years.
Most of the knowledge in this book is stuff you proabably already knew, but nobody ever actually told you. But Stephen Carter writes so succinctly, from his own disfunctional experiences.
If you have felt for some time that there was something wrong, but have the type of kind, caring, friends in committed relationships who tell you that you just havent met the 'right one' then read on. This book will not tell you how to change or give you the answers, but it will describe you on every page (scarey stuff!)
To find the true answers on how to change yourself, then you will need to read Getting To Committment, also by Stephen Carter.
Remember, we cannot change others, only ourselves. But by making these simple changes, (which will not always be easy!), you will attract the right sort of person into your life.
This book should be compulsory reading for anyone who has struggled to understand a difficult partner, but be aware, you may not get the answers you were looking for!
Totally eye-opening and highly recommended
40 of 41 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Wow. This book helped me so much. Since I broke up with my ex I've read about every book under the sun and they've all helped in their own ways but this helped the most. Like just about every other review writer I was left devastated when my ex suddenly and cowardly froze up saying he wasn't sure about me (forcing me to end the relationship) when two weeks before he'd been busy telling me he wanted to marry me! So hard to understand, so hurtful, so confusing. The shock was the worst thing I think. The only conclusion I could come to was that I was hideous and unworthy - until I read this book. It finally helped me to let go, realise he certainly wasn't perfect, and that I was longing for something that never really existed! So if you have been in a similar situation, read this book, get angry, feel better, and let go of the silly sad person who did that to you! (and maybe deal with some of your own commitment issues into the bargain). Can't recommend it enough!
36 of 37 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
I was drawn to this book because of the positive reviews when I was looking for something to give me an understanding of my new boyfriend who clearly has had commitment issues in the past. The book is so accurate it could have his name on it .... but what is really interesting is whilst he has commitment issues with a capital C, I discovered that I certainly have them with a small c. That was such a revelation because I was married for almost 25 years and thought I was good at commitment. I realise from reading this book that quite by chance the type of marriage that I had worked ideally for me because I struggled with some aspects of commitment ... essentially married to someone who spent quite a lot of time away which gave us both 'space'. I don't think it was the commitment issue that made the relationship break down and having read this book I realise how fortunate we were that it lasted that long! This book is brilliant and I cannot tell you how much I have discovered about myself in a couple of days! Buy it!
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Enlightening Read
This is the first ever self-help book I've read and it proved overwhelmingly enlightening. It's not like it tells you anything you already don't know but it explains it in a way... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Jayne
so whats the solution?
very insightful book. as i was reading it i felt like yeah this is me!
but the whole book spends too much time pointing out the problems without giving enough information ab... Read more
but the whole book spends too much time pointing out the problems without giving enough information ab... Read more
Published 5 months ago by Sally
This book will save your sanity!!
I initially purchased this book to assist in understanding my ex boyfriends comittment issues, and to try and figure out whether there was anything I could do to to change this. Read more
Published 5 months ago by Jayne115
Excellent
This is an excellent book for anyone with commitment problems. Well written, informative and teaches you a lot about your behaviour. Read more
Published 6 months ago by Z. Lambe
Great read
This book is a must read if you find you are making the same dating mistakes over and over again. I was very surprised to find that I am really committment-phobic, never thought of... Read more
Published 8 months ago by Booknut
Nice to know you have company, but....
When i read this book after a painful breakup, it immediately supplied the answers i had been looking for as to why/how my partner could leap in and out of a relationship with such... Read more
Published 11 months ago by John M. Callaway
wow!
it usuallly takes me ages to finnish books, not because i'm a slow reader, but because i normally have about 10 different books on the go all at once (signs that i'm a classic... Read more
Published 12 months ago by miss g
Running scared?
The main difficulty with this text is that it tends to create generalisations that are not necessarily valid. Read more
Published 21 months ago by Vix
insightful
I bought this book following a conversation with an ex boyfriend J who said he was scared and I had said the same some weeks after we had split. Read more
Published 22 months ago by passive c p
Easy, Down-to-Earth Solutions for Commitment Issues
A very easy read, this book provides an excellent insight on the phobia to commit, and the ways we avoid a commited relationship, even though we might not know how or why we do... Read more
Published on 10 Sep 2009 by Bruno Almeida
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