Healing the Hurting: Giving Hope and Help to Abused Women [Paperback]

Introduction: Working Together to Listen and Learn (Catherine Clark Kroeger); Part 1 -- All the Hurting; Chap 1 -- Power, Patriarchy, and Abusive Marriages (Cynthia Ezell); The Burden of Inequality; History of Patriarchy; Marital Violence; The Battered Wife; The Battering Husband; The Role of Culture; The Role of Religion; Marital Rape; Gender Inequality and Marital Rape; Role of Religion in Marital Rape; Treatment Issues for Therapists and Pastoral Counselors; Implications for Religious Leaders; Justice, Equality, Intimacy; Chap 2 -- When Right Becomes Scriptural Abuse (Melissa Kubitschek Ezell); The Husband as Spiritual Leader of the Family; Sacrificial Love; Total Acceptance; Conclusion; Chap 3 -- Battered Christian Women (Elizabeth Pearson); Religion and Battering; Surveying Battered Women; The Need for Response: Ministers and Church Leaders, The Church Community, Health-Care Providers, Therapists; Chap 4 -- Testimony of an Abuse Survivor (Lydia); Chap 5 -- Reflections of an Abuse Survivor (Marge Cox); Chap 6 -- Christian Men Who Hate Women (Margaret Josephson Rinck); Chap 7 -- The Silent Killer of Christian Marriages (Amy Wildman White); The Characteristics of Emotional Abuse; The Traits of an Abusive Husband; The Traits of an Emotionally Abused Wife; Responses to Emotionally Abusive Marriages; Chap 8 -- The Evangelical Family Is Sacred, but Is It Safe? (Nancy Nason-Clark); The Response of Christian Churches to Wife Abuse; Evangelical Churches and Abuse: Signs of Sensitivity; The Experience of Pastors in Counseling Abuse Victims; The Informal Support Network; Churchwomen's Response to the Transition House Movement; Challenges to Seeing Church Sensitivity: Giving the Violence a Name, Reconciling Abuser and Abused, Making Few Referrals, Preaching Reluctantly Against Wife Abuse, Interpreting Abuse in Families of Faith; Making the Church a Safe Place: Recognize That Abuse Exists, Identify the Unique Role of the Pastoral Counselor, Ensure That Victimized Women Are Offered Choices, Support Violence-Free Family Living, Build Bridges to the Community; Part 2 -- And the Healing; Chap 9 -- Sexual Abuse Survivors in the Church (Diane Strong Nesheim); My Story; Wolves in Sheep's Clothing; Issues That Contribute to Abuse: Headship and Submission, Misinterpretation or Selective Use of Scripture, Obedience to Authority; Hindrances to Healing from Abuse: Faith or Magical Thinking? Simplistic Answers, Loss of or Misplaced Trust, Guilt Reinforced, Denial of Feelings, Virtue in Self-Denial, Suffering as Payment for Sin, Virginity Upheld; The Church's Role in the Healing Process: Allowing the Expression of Anger and Rage, Offering Forgiveness, Seeing the Family as It Really Is, Using Alternative Images for God; Transformed Christian Communities, Christian Education, Reinterpreting Scripture, Training for Clergy, Seeking Justice;

Chap 10 -- "God, I Hate You"; "Sally, I Love You" (Pamela C. Court); The Case of Sally; The Push to Religious Conformity; Gender Issues; Anger at Her Family; Sally's Issue with God; The Use of Imprecatory Therapy; Chap 11 -- From Victim to Survivor and Beyond (Anne Findlay Chamberlain); What Is Sexual Abuse? Who Are the Victims of Abuse? Who Are the Abusers? The Journey of Healing; The Effects of Abuse: Emotional Effects, Physical Effects, Sexual Effects, Relational Effects, Spiritual Effects; Guidelines for Survivors: The Choice to Heal, Paradigm Shift, Regaining a Voice, Get Safe, Trust Your Intuition, Learn to Love Yourself, Learn to Love Your Body, Learn to Love the Inner Child, Find Healing Communities and Rituals, Learn Balance; How Others Can Help Survivors: Spouses, Family and Friends, The Church; Chap 12 -- Group Work with Evangelical Abused Wives (Mary Williams); The Literature; Hindrances to Stopping Abuse; Lack of Awareness; Group Work: Problems, The Format; Conclusions; Chap 13 -- A Theological Analysis of Hierarchicalism (Joan Tyvoll); Made in the Image of God; A Social Theory of the Trinity; Social Trinity and Creation; Hierarchicalism Enters with the Fall; Authentic Power and Secular Power; Hierarchicalism as the Secular Power Structure; God and Hierarchicalism in the Old and New Testaments; The Body of Christ -- the Model for the Community; Exposing the Evil of Hierarchicalism; The Roots of the Conflict; Hierarchicalism Dims the Glory of God; Hierarchicalism and Women; A Better Way; Chap 14 -- Disputing the Excuse for Abuse (Andrew C. Perriman); The Metaphorical Sense of Kephale; I Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:23; The Argument about Submission in Ephesians 5:21-24; Other Passages That Address Subordination; Conclusions; Conclusion -- What Can the Church Do? (James R. Beck); Respond to Abuse as Jesus Would; Root Out Abuse; Educate the Congregation; Understand the Relationship between Abuse and Misuse of Authority; Create a Healing Environment in the Church Appendix -- Some Biblical Thoughts for Abused Women