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Product details

  • Paperback: 147 pages
  • Publisher: Ballantine Books Inc.; 1 edition (1 Jan. 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0345423747
  • ISBN-13: 978-0345423740
  • Product Dimensions: 14 x 1 x 21.6 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 5,596,909 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“I wish we were back together for just one night … so I could push you out of my loft bed while you were sleeping.”

Satirical and sharp, downtown New York City performance artist Anita Liberty reinvents self-he;p as she skewers her ex-boyfriend in this hilarious, hip, and audaciously candid collection of advice, poems, and diary entries.

From romantic bliss to brutal breakup, from heartache to healing, this fierce, funny, and ultimately liberating homage to being “dumped” offers a red-hot therapy of wit, wisdom, rage, and redemption. And now, a few words from Anita Liberty …

“He told me that I’m beautiful when I’m angry. Big mistake.”

“COMPROMISE – Lowering my standards. So you can meet them.”

“You’re a bad habit. I want to kick you. Hard.”

Includes free postcards to send to people who deserve them!

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About the Author

Anita Liberty performed her first one-woman show, ‘Not Thinking About You’, at the US Comedy Arts Festival in Aspen in 1996. Her weekly episodic website, ‘Give Me Liberty’, launched in 1997. Anita Liberty (a short film) was shown at the 1997 Sundance Film Festival and had its television premiere on the Independent Film Channel on Valentine’s Day 1997.

Anita Liberty is a character created and performed by Suzanne Weber.

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 7 Dec. 2000
Format: Paperback
The title of this book is terribly intrigueing. Anyone who tries to make lemonade (eg write a book) from the lemons that life has chucked at them wins my vote. In particular page 77 is hilarious. It is a letter by Anita to her good friends in the event that they should run into her X - and what she would like them to say and how she would like them to react. Classic really. This book is filled with poems and random thoughts. It might not be everyone's cup of tea, but having been there "I got it".
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By A Customer on 3 Nov. 1998
Format: Paperback
My live-in boyfriend of 3 1/2 years left me because he wanted his space...but I think it was a girl named Dana...This book helped me realize that I'm not alone in this world...I recommend it to everyone who has been dumped.
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20 of 24 people found the following review helpful
wake up people! It's only comedy 20 Jun. 1999
By A Customer - Published on
Format: Paperback
These reviews are either wonderful or awful. The purpose of this book is to take *dumped* feelings to the extreme-hence, the humor. Why is that so hard for some people to take? The inclusion of the word "feminist" in one of the criticisms shows the complete lack of understanding, particularly on the part of (some) people. There are many women out there that are jerks too, do you think that Anita is unaware of that? Do you fault your friends or YOURSELF when they get involved with people who later turn out to be jerks? I think not. But by telling women "just quit becoming involved with bad men" or "every woman I know who has read this book and enjoyed it has only bad relationships" you are totally blaming the person who was most injured by the situation. I think that most people would prefer to be involved in happy, healthy relationships, and most are shocked when this turns out not to be so. I said MOST. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. This book is a helpful tool for women (or men!) to get their butts in gear and feel better after suffering a massive hit to their egos. What's so horrible about that? Why is justified anger in the face of bad treatment so difficult for you to take?
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
Awesome Break-Up Book 5 Oct. 2011
By Eric K. - Published on
Format: Kindle Edition
This is one of my favorite break-up books of all time. A friend of mine bought it for me after one of my (many) break-ups. Actually, I got dumped. Just like Anita Liberty did in this book. The book made me smile and even laugh. It's creatively put together and lets you know that you're not the only one out there feeling down in the dumps because someone didn't think you were good enough for them. I felt hating.

In kind, when my friend who gave me the book got seriously dumped, I was glad to pick up a copy of Anita Liberty's book for him, too. Misery loves company. :)
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
First thing to make me laugh after the breakup 5 Nov. 2012
By ecombs - Published on
Format: Paperback
A good friend gave me the book after my boyfriend dumped me. I'm the type of person who does not believe in hate (think it takes too much energy), so I was skeptical of the book. However, I loved it! It was the first thing after the breakup that made me laugh out loud. Exactly what I needed! Would highly recommend it; just remember its a comedy book.
4 of 5 people found the following review helpful
Hilarious 2 May 2008
By Pamela D. Knight - Published on
Format: Paperback
For those who found this book unfunny because the idea of hate is so horrible or you think she's a man-hater, please, get a sense of humor. This book is not meant to be therapeutic or taken seriously and the reason it's pointed towards a man is only because she's heterosexual.

It's funny and refreshing and reminds people in moments of pain to find the humor in their situation and maybe they just need to allow themselves a little anger, then get over it.
6 of 8 people found the following review helpful
Better than chocolate 13 April 2000
By Tracker621 - Published on
Format: Paperback
I read this book when it first came out and I've been dipping back into it regularly for years. I've given it to friends going through hard breakups and friends who are blissed out in love. The response is always the same: "What a great book!" It's not just that it is wickedly funny, which it is, but I also found it to be comforting, insightful and powerful. I think all too often it's easy, or safer, for women to mask anger with depression. Anita Liberty lives out loud, and in the process, she tells a hell of a joke.
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