So many couples experience culture shock once their children are born. Their lives turn upside down. Wives find that they do most of the diaper changes, feedings, and regular chores around the house. This leaves them to feel unappreciated and overworked. They wait until the last minute to ask for help from their husbands, usually leading them to yell in frustration. Husbands may feel inadequate in helping with the child, so they focus on what they can do best, working. They stress over whether they are providing enough monetarily, not realizing they need to provide emotionally as well. Neither of them are mind readers! Without proper communication, most marriages head toward demise.
Dr. Carol Lindquist, a therapist with thirty years of experience, strives to bridge the gaps between the husband and wife. Her book, Happily Married With Kids: It's Not a Fairy Tale gives couples the help they need. She guides couples to talk to each other, learn from each other, and keep their intimacy going in order to help their marriages grow.
She brings awareness that while having children is a blessing, it can also be taxing on the marriage. This is not the child's fault but rather how the adults handle the situations. Do they handle them together or do they try to do them alone without working as a team? To make a marriage work, communication needs to be open, listening needs to be instilled, and appreciation for each other should be an every day occurrence.
If your marriage on the outside seems perfect, but inside you know it needs help, don't shy away from asking for it. If you wait too long, it may be too late.