As a consumer of many of Dr. Jeanette's publications, audios, and seminars, I wholeheartedly recommend this book. At its foundation is the new information that broken hearts aren't about what we have "lost" and how you can "get over it." Having a broken heart is about where we need to heal and grow ourselves. This shift in focus from yearning to get someone to "come back," to taking responsibility for ourselves, turns a potentially tormented time into our very own internal classroom. Through this independence gained from stopping the pain ourselves, we can learn to love with integrity, rather than repeating the same old patterns. Finding real love doesn't mean beating the odds and maneuvering to catch Mr. (or Ms.) Right. Real love means moving through the world with a healthy and open heart. This is not magic and it does take self-dedication, a little time and great honesty. I can tell you this book will help you stop aching and love in a new way, whether your heartbreak is because of a relationship's ending or the difficulties all relationships have along the way.