- Hardcover: 293 pages
- Publisher: Simon & Schuster (20 Jan 2003)
- Language English
- ISBN-10: 0743210808
- ISBN-13: 978-0743210805
- Product Dimensions: 21.1 x 14.2 x 2.8 cm
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 601,574 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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A volume drawing from personal interviews with married men and women, as well as findings from therapists, reveals how to achieve a "grown-up" marriage by delving into the many issues and problems that married couples of all ages face.
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MOST OF THE WOMEN of my generation probably married too young to have grown acquainted with the dread of loneliness. Read the first page
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39 of 41 people found the following review helpful
Good book on marriage
10 Feb 2003
Format:Hardcover
In the movie "Good Will Hunting" the therapist defines soulmate as "someone who challenges you". At first I was puzzled at this definition but I soon found out what this meant by reading this book and living out my own marriage. A marriage is a constant learning experience just like life. We are challenged to change, adapt, and grow everyday and this is what really makes us mature as indivuduals as well as happy in our marriages. This book convincingly showed me that a marital relationship is a process and a neverending opportunity to mature as a human being. Yes, sometimes it seen as a place for comfort and acceptance but it is mostly a challenge, a challenge to grow. A challenge to let go of our insecurities and defenses and open up more and more as we become more and more emotionally intimate with one another. And this certainly requires growth and maturation. Overall, this is a great book that convicingly explains this process. If you are looking for more information about how to let go of our insecurities, open up to our partners and grow as human beings, I'd recommend, "Rhythm, Relationships, and Transcendence" by Toru Sato. It is also a fantastic book on relationships. You'll love it!
27 of 27 people found the following review helpful
Terrific insights into relationships
5 April 2003
Format:Hardcover
I wish this book had been written a year ago when my own "starter marriage" was falling apart. There were so many instances in the book where I could point to a passage and say, "Yep! That's us." "That's totally what happened to us too!" etc. It might have saved my marriage. But I'm glad to have read this book later rather than never. With an impressive understanding of human nature, Viorst touches upon the many delicate interrelational factors that causes strain in people's marriages as well as second (and third) marriages, and why seemingly happy couples divorce while destructive, unhappy couples stay together. This is a worthwhile, mandatory read for every couple who plans to get married or is already married or might be thinking of divorce. Do your loved ones a favor and give this book to a future bride or bridegroom as a wedding gift. It's one of the best relationship tune-ups you'll read.
16 of 16 people found the following review helpful
A Marital Must Read
29 July 2005
Format:Paperback
This book should be compulsory reading for any couple contemplating marriage. In a sometimes gut-wrenching analysis of modern marriage, Viorst spells out the fallacies of our society's view on marital bliss in a way that will challenge and, on occasion, shock you with its ability to reflect your own romantic relationship.
One of the most provocative chapters is, "The First Shocks of Marriage." This chapter outlines the expectations we bring into marriage and the feelings of betrayal that result when those expectations are invariably, and sometimes brutally, crushed. As a divorced, middle-aged woman with many female friends who maintain a 'revolving door' of romantic relationships, the concept of feeling emotionally betrayed is one that will speak to every woman...and should be understood by every man. Viorst cites the common female viewpoint that "marriage should be nothing less than love, adoration, companionship, physical intimacy, emotional availability, respect, humor and tolerance." And the male viewpoint Viorst cites is one that expects a wife to "respect his need for autonomy and give him plenty of room to do his own thing." Yet, if anything, the reality of marriage teaches us that we often won't get all, or even some, of what we expected.
One lesson every individual who reads this book should learn, and learn, and learn yet once again, is that marriage is work...Work...WORK. This book, like no other I have read, made me question whether I'm up to it. :-) It also made me realize that, when it does work, when both halves of the couple (not either/or) are willing to work diligently at keeping the dream alive, the reward is priceless.
One of the most provocative chapters is, "The First Shocks of Marriage." This chapter outlines the expectations we bring into marriage and the feelings of betrayal that result when those expectations are invariably, and sometimes brutally, crushed. As a divorced, middle-aged woman with many female friends who maintain a 'revolving door' of romantic relationships, the concept of feeling emotionally betrayed is one that will speak to every woman...and should be understood by every man. Viorst cites the common female viewpoint that "marriage should be nothing less than love, adoration, companionship, physical intimacy, emotional availability, respect, humor and tolerance." And the male viewpoint Viorst cites is one that expects a wife to "respect his need for autonomy and give him plenty of room to do his own thing." Yet, if anything, the reality of marriage teaches us that we often won't get all, or even some, of what we expected.
One lesson every individual who reads this book should learn, and learn, and learn yet once again, is that marriage is work...Work...WORK. This book, like no other I have read, made me question whether I'm up to it. :-) It also made me realize that, when it does work, when both halves of the couple (not either/or) are willing to work diligently at keeping the dream alive, the reward is priceless.
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