Some things bear repeating and the efficacy of Michael Castleman's book Great Sex, is one of them.
Nowhere will a reader find another work that provides so much insightful information on how men and women can work together to create delectably healthy sexual relationships. From lackluster sex to male performance anxiety to the dearth of knowledge surrounding the female sexual response, Castleman tackles virtually every sexual issue affecting couples today.
According to Castleman, Great Sex is something a couple creates together, not something innate or imitated.
One of Castleman's most salient points comes in his discussion of media messages (primarily those conveyed through pornography) and how they wreak havoc on our personal sexual relations. He encourages us to understand that real life luxurious sex is far better than media inspired sex -- where there seems to be a rush to the genitals and then to intercourse.
Men who read this work will find a wealth of information and advice regarding penis size, ejaculatory control, masturbation, female pleasure, and the changes that come with age and that can occur through diet and exercise. I do believe men will breathe a sigh of relief when reading this book, for it lets them know they are not alone in their sexual struggles. As a woman, I was surprised to find that the majority of men experience sexual problems, too, and delighted to learn that my husband's problems were not problems at all, but common aspects of male sexuality.
There is another equally important way men will benefit from this book, and that is in the way it normalizes women as well. That is, Castleman has finally provided men and women with a book that doesn't approach female pleasure as if it were an anamoly, a mystery never to be solved. I've read many books for men about female pleasure, and most of them talk condescendingly about women's sexual response or they convey the notion that it is something that can never be understand because each woman is so different in terms of how she responds to sexual stimuli.
Castleman, however, approaches this subject outside the cloak of mystery and makes women's slower and more individualized sexual response easy to understand, completely normal, and full of potential. He stresses the normalcy of the vast majority of women who cannot orgasm through intercourse alone (a fact so important that Castleman, thankfully, repeats it on a number of occasions), and in doing so, Castleman encourages men and women to discard the age old belief that women, like men, should orgasm through intercourse and asks us to explore all the other avenues that can lead to orgasmic pleasure for both men and women.
This request alone erases the idea of foreplay (previously understood as a prelude to the real thing - intercourse) and makes all we do (kissing, touching, stroking, rubbing, licking, loving) the feature show. Moreover, it slows the pace of sex for both men and women and increases their potential ten fold for the kind of sex that will leave them completely sated and eager for the next encounter.
This is a must read for anyone who would like to experience - for a lifetime -- GREAT SEX.