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Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck

Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck [Kindle Edition]

Amy Alkon
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Praise for "I See Rude People" "This crazy redhead is on to something. Her pink Rambler story alone is worth the price of the book."--Elmore Leonard "Amy Alkon is intellectually promiscuous--and funny as hell."--Howard Bloom, paleopsychologist and author of "The Lucifer Principle""Applied evolutionary psychology at its best. The funniest book I've read since Dave Barry's Big Trouble...also endorsed by Elmore Leonard."--Dr. Satoshi Kanazawa, London School of Economics, "Psychology Today ""Seriously great book. Alkon is smart and savvy and funny as hell. Where Hannibal the Cannibal only ate the rude, Alkon stands up to them with the sort of glorious panache that sometimes makes you want to stand and cheer."--David Middleton, "January Magazine"Praise for Amy Alkon: "Alkon turns reporting on findings in evolutionary psychology into an art form. She scans the research horizon for fascinating new results. Though relentless in her skepticism, she is keenly attuned to findings that are both solid and suggestive. (The world lost a great analyst when Alkon turned away from academic research.) In her hands, all this research turns into practical advice for how ordinary people can live better lives. Alkon may be, as the LA Weekly put it, 'Miss Manners With Fangs, ' but she is perhaps better characterized as the offspring of Charles Darwin and Dorothy Parker. We academics can all take a lesson from her ability to redefine academic turf in terms 'the ordinary person' can both understand and enjoy."--Dr. Barbara Oakley, Oakland University

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"Miss Manners with Fangs." —LA Weekly

We live in a world that’s very different from the one in which Emily Post came of age. Many of us who are nice (but who also sometimes say "f*ck") are frequently at a loss for guidelines about how to be a good person who deals effectively with the increasing onslaught of rudeness we all encounter.
To lead us out of the miasma of modern mannerlessness, science-based and bitingly funny syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon rips the doily off the manners genre and gives us a new set of rules for our twenty-first century lives.
With wit, style, and a dash of snark, Alkon explains that we now live in societies too big for our brains, lacking the constraints on bad behavior that we had in the small bands we evolved in. Alkon shows us how we can reimpose those constraints, how we can avoid being one of the rude, and how to stand up to those who are.
Foregoing prissy advice on which utensil to use, Alkon answers the twenty-first century’s most burning questions about manners, including:

* Why do many people, especially those under forty, now find spontaneous phone calls rude?

* What can you tape to your mailbox to stop dog walkers from letting their pooch violate your lawn?

* How do you shut up the guy in the pharmacy line with his cellphone on speaker?

* What small gift to your new neighbors might make them think twice about playing Metallica at 3 a.m.?

Combining science with more than a touch of humor, Good Manners for Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck is destined to give good old Emily a shove off the etiquette shelf (if that’s not too rude to say).

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 1338 KB
  • Print Length: 302 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1250030714
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin (3 Jun 2014)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #209,030 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars very amusing book 10 Aug 2014
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As the title suggests this is a very humourous little book. An ideal present for a lady who uses that word occasionally, esp. when driving
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars 4 July 2014
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Modern Manners - I should have bought a dozen of these - (?) always supposing they would be read
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5.0 out of 5 stars a good, fun read... and how often can that be said of a book with "manners" in the title? 4 Jun 2014
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This is not your grandmother's manners book! Comparing it to any book with a section on addressing wedding invitations would be a mistake. This book is about how to not end up in a viral video for being a jerk. It deals with etiquette issues that desperately need addressing (e.g. how to not be a cellphone boor) as well as the question of why people seem ruder than ever... and what we can do about it. Perhaps most importantly, it doesn't simply chirp to "set a good example" but is empowering in that explains how we can influence others to behave better, without being a jerk about it, of course.

...And it's funny too.

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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Modern Guide to Good Manners 16 Jun 2014
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An English friend once explained to me that "proper" Brits could not use salt shakers. They had to spoon the salt onto the rim of their plates and transport it to their food with the tip of a knife. That rule changed abruptly when Prince Charles was caught on camera salting his food directly from the shaker, giving the whole country permission to do the same. Perhaps that is how etiquette evolves in a rigid class society, but where do the rest of us go to learn how to live harmoniously with each other long after we have outgrown Miss Manners and Emily Post?

You may not realize how much you need this book until you read it. This sassy, classy, redhead is assertive enough to take on the monumental task of spelling out everything you need to know about how to co-exist with almost eight billion other people without losing your sanity or your humanity. For example: do you know when it's OK to cold call someone? (Never.) When you should leave a voice mail? (Don't.) What to do when stuck in a row of airplane seats with four armrests for six arms? (The two end passengers get one and a half armrests each; the squishee in the middle gets two halves.)

Be prepared to find out some things about yourself that you didn't want to know. Are you a cheapskate who has been under-tipping? A helpful person giving out unwanted advice? Amy is such a talented and entertaining writer that she can say the things your friends won't tell you and do it with such humor and tact that you actually enjoy the process!
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Read this book if you want to enhance your every day life and interactions. 25 July 2014
By Patricia buckley - Published on
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After reading Advice Goddess in my local paper and noticing the author's email address, I took the liberty of telling the author how hilarious her advice was. Amy Alkon has an ability to say what is on her mind in such a way that the reader sees the world in a whole new way. She has an educated understanding of psychology and technology coupled with a warm embrace of humanity.

After buying "Good Manners" which I thoroughly enjoyed from cover to cover, I realized that the behavior of certain people upsets each one of us but the majority of us just walk away. As an activist for preventing further actions that cause misery to others, Amy differentiates from most people. She is a champion in this regard and takes action. We need more people in the world to step up to the plate and say or do something when slighted or offended.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Tells it like it is!!! Lots of Fun! 23 July 2014
By Melissa Goldstein - Published on
I myself definitely like to say F--k sometimes! Sometimes there's just no other word in the English language that can capture the moment. Amy cuts right through the Bullshit.

This book was fun and hilarious and tons of moments when I found myself saying "yes! that is SO True!!!!".
Her stories and writing style are completely relatable to everyone living in the world. She takes tons of situations and essentially says "this is how things are and then tells us how things REALLY are"; things we always already suspected but perhaps don't want to say or admit.

She talks about the many annoyances we all endure simply by being alive whether it be from inane cell phone conversations blaring in our ears, phone etiquette, dating, internet, technology in general and how to apologize..., what not to do and when the truth is far worse than any lie.

One example she gave about email (spoiler alert) was hot there's no greater example of passive aggression than the "cc". Anyone with a job knows all about this lovely function! Where you're publicly humiliated in front of everyone on the email chain. She goes onto say that the Blind Copy feature is better because even though we may KNOW that email travels a billion miles an hour to everyone in the universe if we don't SEE the fact that it's been copied to x,y and z person we can delude ourselves into believing this is not the case.

I look forward to reading more by Amy.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A hilarious and practical guide to today's culture and technology 27 July 2014
By James Simon - Published on
This book is a practical guide to navigating everyday situations, from tipping to parking to public transportation, the internet, dating, and more in today's culture and today's technology. some of it is common sense. other parts are not so common sense, but should be.

Amy is driven to make this a better world, for herself obviously, but also for the rest of us. Amy is also, obviously, a workaholic, which everyone who follows her columns, her blogs, and her books knows. I have no idea how she does it all, except that she is driven to help everybody who crosses her path. If you don't believe me, and you need social advice, send her an email ( She will get back to you with amazing advice and won't charge a cent for it.

amy's a genius. she's thought things thru. she's researched them, so the rest of us, who just want to live our lives, don't have to. plus, she's hilarius. my ipad version is 400 pages, but it's a fast fun read. once you begin, you can't put it down. unless you live alone on your own private deserted island in the middle of nowhere, you should read this book, because it will help you to live your life among the rest of us. it will also help you to be more happy and successful at whatever you do.
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