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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful
A Good Book 12 Oct. 2006
By B. Horne - Published on
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I couldn't put it down, and found myself disappointed that there wasn't more to read. If the couple does (or has) indeed try(ied) for another, I'd be just as interested to hear this 'story' as well.

While I can understand the previous reviewer's dismay with some of the author's thoughts, feelings, and actions, I certainly don't agree with it. This journey was *real*--not idealized, and none of his true emotions were glossed over for the sake of portraying himself or the 'journey' of surrogacy in a better (thus, unrealistic) light. People have these kinds of problems in real life, and reading this book shows the reader their potential, what *could* and quite easily can go wrong. That said, he tends to recognize when his feelings were unreasonable or when he was indeed being "dramatic"--but nonetheless such was the case at the time, and he didn't ignore it. (Though I do have to say that I found many of "SF Guy's" assessments [thus, descriptions of what happened in the book] rather inaccurate.)

It's certainly not all "drama", either. Right along with all the frustrations and disappointments, you read of their excitement and joy. Even though it's told from only one Dad's perspective, I feel he made a nice effort to represent that of the other parties involved as well, even when their thoughts and feelings conflicted with his own.

Mostly, I found this interesting from the perspective of being two fathers, and of trying for--and genuinely wanting--a child of their own. Going through the motions, and considering the realities of such a family, to make it reality.

If you're looking into surrogacy for yourself, or just curious about the process, I really do recommend this book. Sure, it's certainly not sugar-coated, but neither is real life.
3 of 4 people found the following review helpful
A gay man's individual surrogacy journey 10 Feb. 2008
By Duke Marine - Published on
Format: Paperback
I liked this book, I really did. It was wonderful to read a book about a subject that is not usually covered. I've read books by and about gay parents before but usually it involves adoption. So for somebody curious about surrogacy I found the book to be a breath of fresh air...

However, I have to stress that it was OBVIOUSLY a very unique perspective. It was the diary and thoughts of ONE of the intended fathers in this process. And I must say he was not a particularly likable guy...he came off as completely obsessive, anxious, and dramatic. Every little thing would leave him huddled in a corner in tears literally. Meanwhile his husband, the other intended father, is usually nowhere to be found as the book repeatedly reminds us he is very busy with work.

So the story you read is mostly the panicked thoughts of the biological father of the intended child.

Also, even though I've done a minimal amount of research on the topic I feel like the roads that this couple took were very difficult and avoidable. Again almost all of the decisions were made by the over-emotional member of the couple and most of the things "they" did seemed based totally on his impulse. I think that if he had ACTUALLY researched things, not just did some quick surfing online a couple times, and gotten the advice of a lawyer BEFORE the pregnancy was already almost complete a lot of their awful experiences could of been avoided.

So basically what I'm trying to say is that you come away from this story not particularly liking the author and finding their experience almost frightening.

However, as a perspective on something that is not widely discussed I feel it is important to read and it is entertaining at times.
6 of 9 people found the following review helpful
"An Hysterical Man's Journey Through Traditional Surrogacy" 30 Sept. 2006
By SF Guy - Published on
Format: Hardcover
Very little has been written about gay men going through surrogacy and this book, unfortunately, does not do much to fill that gap. Firstly, the text is poorly written and edited (I noticed that there was no editor officially credited in the front; only in the author's acknowledgements could I find evidence that there was one). At times, it was difficult to follow the chronology. The book reads like a journal with a voiceover and it doesn't work.

Secondly, the author/main character is a major drama queen who flips out over just about anything, large or small (example: he goes over the top when he finds out on a blog that his surrogate doesn't, in general, like smokers). Also, I found it hard to have sympathy for this guy (partnered with an MD) when he finds out they aren't insured for the pregnancy halfway through it due to his lack of research; duh! He also has ridiculous expectations for the surrogate, especially around compensating her for her expenses (he is obsessed with the money, large and small, throughout the book).

Finally, he is completely out of synch with his own reality when he feels regret that the traditional surrogate (her eggs were used) has to give up her child, and is concerned that his baby daughter didn't give her permission to write the book (newsflash: leaving her real name and photos out of the book might be an idea to consider).

This book does help in one area: it illustrates most of the reasons why strangers should not engage in traditional surrogacy (same woman for eggs and gestation). Many reputable fertility clinics and doctors won't touch these due to the murky legal status of the contracts and the implications for the birthmother. Gestational surrogacy, unfortunately, is barely mentioned in this book (the author cites it as too expensive).

I didn't learn much here and didn't enjoy the couple's journey.
2 of 4 people found the following review helpful
Great 1 Feb. 2007
By ML - Published on
Format: Paperback
Not much on this subject so this book was a great source for anyone like me considering this........
0 of 1 people found the following review helpful
Amazingly Personal 9 May 2007
By Melanie Cochrane - Published on
Format: Paperback
Knowing only the surrogate personally...what an amazing story to put both sides together to learn how the journey comes together. A great read!!!! Worth every penny!
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