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From Shy to Social: The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success [Kindle Edition]

Christopher Gray
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“Engaging, well-researched and frequently hilarious, From Shy To Social is one of those rare self-help books that feels like you’re being coached and encouraged by a trusted friend. An absolute must-read for all of the love shy men out there.”
– Sofi Papamarko, Relationship Columnist & Contributor to
The Huffington Post and The Globe & Mail

If your reserved nature is making it difficult for you to date and form friendships, here is some good news:

• Your shyness isn’t entirely your fault
• You can improve in ways you never thought possible

From Shy To Social: The Shy Man's Guide to Personal & Dating Success goes far beyond simple dating pointers by providing practical assignments and cutting-edge advice for the love shy man to build social aptitude and improve dating success. An extensive reference manual on social improvement, From Shy To Social teaches you how to gain confidence in everything from telephone manners to group interaction to directly approaching women for conversation. Each assignment builds on the skills learned previously to lift your social and dating ability to an exciting new level.

Follow the advice & practical assignments to:

• Improve style, body language and voice tone
• Eliminate passivity and become confidently assertive
• Build one-on-one and group conversational skills
• Reduce anxiety when talking to women
• Increase your online dating success
• Build friendships and get invited out more often
• Open conversations and talk to women of different nationalities
• Learn approach skills for the street, bars, bookstores, and more
• Learn proper dating behavior so you no longer get the brush-off for a second date

Also included is a discussion of female psychology and actual transcripts of conversations that led to phone numbers and dates with women. The real-world assignments will help you get the social life you deserve, becoming the better man you want to be.

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About the Author

Christopher Gray is a professional freelance writer living in Toronto. He has been a sales agent, project manager, actor, filmmaker, comedy writer & performer and world traveller.

Product details

  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 730 KB
  • Print Length: 216 pages
  • Publisher: Sunbow Press (4 Jan. 2012)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B005P44X2C
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Word Wise: Enabled
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #223,714 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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Christopher Gray is a professional freelance writer living in Toronto. He has been a sales agent, project manager, actor, filmmaker, comedy writer and performer and world traveler. His latest book is DARK NIGHTS, a speculative fiction thriller set in the present day.

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Keep smiling 17 Nov. 2013
Format:Paperback|Verified Purchase
Relationships are bot my strong point and I really do not want to be a sleaze bucket. This is why I appreciate this writer's approach which is simply to put yourself out there and be interested in women as approachable individuals not as pieces of porcelain. If a female does not respond to your approach that is her problem - you simply behave like a gentleman. The approach is to simply work the percentages - if your strike rate is one per cent then you have to go out and meet a hundred women. Put that way you are looking for the woman who does not reject you and with whom you get a dialogue going. Okay after you have got that dialogue going you might find that the woman is unsuitable because she has unresolved baggage- but that is just life. But that is what getting to the dialogue is all about.
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5.0 out of 5 stars this book make me feel like reading story about my 19 Sept. 2014
By R1mas
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this book make me feel like reading story about my ....
i am 32 years old and still single,in last 10 years i had no contact with human,it's my first book like this what i reading,makes me feel ok,cause i am not alone,i didnt finish reading,but it's gives me some lost faith......
Thanx to Christopher Gray
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5.0 out of 5 stars Real hope for shy men to get dating for real. 14 Jan. 2012
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This book is great. Not only is it very well written, I think it is one of the few books of it's kind in existence. Men are commonly left to initiate contact with women and make the first move in dating and relationships, but when you are shy this is far from easy. There are many books out there that give dating advice and tips on how to pick up women, but they are really not very useful to somebody who is extremely shy and nervous. There are many younger guys and older adult men who are so shy they find asking a woman out on a date isn't just difficult, it's so uncomfortable it can cause anxiety, not only ruining their chances to date the woman they are asking out, but also making them feel worse about themselves than they did before. The more bad experiences shy men have when trying to ask women out, the more discouraged they get, and this often makes them even more shy. This book targets shyness as one of the biggest obstacles preventing men from meeting and dating women. Rather than just telling the reader how they should act and dress and suggesting they go right out and try to ask women out, Chris starts first by attacking the problem of shyness directly with a well thought out step by step plan. The reader is told to start small and by following his guide, the reader hones simple skills that can't help but build confidence, calm nerves and erode shyness. Advice on how to act and what to say are useless if they don't attack the main problem of shyness. Each step the reader takes builds on the last until finally, he is no longer the same shy person he was when he first picked up the book.

The author says the book is semi-autobiographical, with advice borne out of real life experience, which adds credibility. Most of the scenarios in the book are ones that just about anybody can identify with no matter if you are shy or not, because it cites difficult real-life scenarios, e.g. such as how to interact with people at a party even if something embarrasing happened to you (like a drink being spilled on your shirt, etc.). This is a book that takes shyness more seriously than anything else I've read. Shy readers will feel they can relate. Even non-shy can benefit from this book. Lots of confident men may not suffer from shyness, but that doesn't mean their dating and relationships are satisfactory and fulfilling. Even these men could learn more than a thing or two from the social lessons in this book. Whoever you are grab a copy and dive in. You won't regret it.
17 of 20 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Well-written and inspirational! 2 Dec. 2011
By Peter Bowerman - Published on
Really enjoyed this book. In an engaging, and direct writing style, Chris takes the reader through the steps necessary to significantly improve your social skills and dating success. What I like about the author's approach is that he breaks this process down into simple easy-to-follow steps. For someone who is struggling with an unsuccessful social/dating life, and in a mental rut about the whole thing, the situation can seem overwhelming. But, in fact, by taking simple - and easily accomplished - steps, the necessary changes are actually far less daunting than they may originally appear.

And that's the author's gift - to gently coax the reader into taking those steps, and convincing him that if he does, a better life is not only possible, but probable. It truly offers new (and realistic!) hope to those sitting on the social sidelines. Highly recommended. P.S. One final thing: as an author and publisher myself, I have to say, I really appreciated the production quality of this book - it's beautiful!
20 of 24 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Where was this book 10 years ago ? 17 Mar. 2012
By gofigurepublications - Published on
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As an extremely skeptical person, I expected this book to change my life in exactly zero ways. Seven shades of red later, I am glad to admit that I was completely wrong. Either the author and I are twins separated at birth or he has spent hundreds of hours watching and documenting my painful interactions with the opposite sex, but every word seemed penned exclusively for me. This isn't your typical "3 minute abs" miracle cure that is all hype and no substance. Quite the contrary. Chris Gray has managed to "explain" the shy male in a way that only a fellow shy male could. The book is not a collection of empty promises or a long-winded thesis written by some PhD hopeful. This is real advice that you can start integrating into your normal routine, today. Whether you buy into only one or all of Chris Gray's techniques ( I hesitate to call them techniques because it sounds so scientific ), you WILL become a better, happier, more successful, well-adjusted human being. You simply can't help it.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Great book for shy men 1 Feb. 2013
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Many books that attempt help to improve male social skills with women do not take shy people into account. This is unfortunate as someone who is painfully shy will have a hard time implementing the strategies of those books. This author takes a different approach that I think is refreshing. While I am not "painfully shy" anymore I read the book to get some general tips on how to more social.

The book integrates topics and assignments on the belief that practice makes perfect (something I believe in). Some topics in the book include: Understanding shyness, positive vs. negative thoughts, working on your voice/body language, improving you look, improving your daily interactions, how to have a conversation in general, how to engage women, etc. Assignments progress upwards (e.g., from posting in online forums to actually talking to women). The book is an easy read and I think would add value to any shy man.

I think I should mention that it is my belief that you should walk before you run, so I think if someone is painfully shy they should buy other books on how to make general conversation/small talk first and then use this book to help increase their skills towards interacting with women. But as I previously stated, I think this is a great book. As a former shy person I can definitely say that the author understands what shy men go through and has some solid strategies to help them in the dating world.
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Truly Excellent 24 Sept. 2012
By MMTO - Published on
This book is truly excellent. Very-well written, and very insightful. I have read a few other books that were completely useless (check out my other reviews), but this book was written by someone who truly understands what your situation is, and gives you excellent advice on how to improve yourself. Highly recommended!
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