From the Author
Sometimes at a point of profound personal change, a person can faulter.What had been clear suddenly becomes cloudy; what had been a resolved next step becomes a stumble. This I describe as 'fragmentation at integration'. An apparent coming together is now a falling apart.
In this short book I seek to explore some of the strands of this process : the sense of loss, the aloneness; but also the fact that any sudden hesitancy may, on occasion, be an act of self-care.
I also consider the role of the 'helper' - whether coach, counsellor or therapist- in all this. She may well need constantly to reposition herself regarding the intimacy and seaparation she has with her client and her own talents and vulnerabilities.
The delight, despair, certainty and doubt which can characterise all of this has some parallels with the early stages of falling in love. In both cases accepting the inevitability of some craziness may be a way of seizing a fragment of sanity.