while this book contains no amazing "miracle techniques," it does a wonderful job making you feel more comfortable with yourself and your body, and also helps you realize that you are, after all, HUMAN. and not all humans react the same way, nor should they. and to comment on another woman's very negative review of this book, she misquotes ms. barbach and leaves out the KEY passages. the paragraphs about the fantasies involving children take up at most one page, and the whole point of them is to encourage you to go ahead and HAVE the fantasies, but NOT to act them out. it's like exercises to try to overcome certain fears - simply do the thing you're afraid of and you won't be afraid of it anymore! if you have these fantasies over and over, soon they lose their initial excitement, and you will move on to something else. she does NOT encourage you to go ahead and have a sexual relationship with your children!!!!!!!! simply having fantasies never hurt anyone! so, i recommend this book to anyone having difficulty reaching orgasm, or just anyone female at all!