What could an 85-year-old monk know about relationships? Everything!
It is no exaggeration to say that we are still together because of the practices Thich Nhat Hanh shares in this book. We have been having a very difficult time in our relationship to the point that it seemed time to end it not too long ago. We vowed to give it six more weeks, during which time we followed TNH's advice and started looking at our individual loneliness and suffering, learning to love ourselves, practicing meditation of various kinds. They are ongoing processes which we do very imperfectly, still, they have opened our hearts, brought us much happiness and renewed our commitment to one another.
Love has poured into our relationship every time I've followed the suggestions in this book. (Even when it's one-sided!) Sometimes the book seems frustratingly simple, if not simplistic, but it works. My favorite recommendation of his is to watch our beloved sleep in order to recapture a feeling of tenderness. Beautiful, simple. Each time I stare at my partner's sweet sleeping face I fall in love all over again. Later, during the day, when he's driving me crazy I recall that image, that sweet feeling, love washes over me and I smile. I've even applied this to my teenage daughter. I also love The Hugging Meditation--the very idea of a hugging meditation should make you smile.
Also excellent is Love's Garden by Peggy Rowe-Ward and Larry Ward