From the Back Cover
This book brings us a new understanding of Anxiety Disorders and Depression. It shows how we can cure the very cause of these problems (not just the symptoms) and can help with:-
Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia) -
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) -
Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) -
Panic Disorder and PTSD -
Self-harm and BDD -
Eating Disorders -
Specific Phobias -
Understanding and changing a life ruled by shyness or stress. -
It takes us on a journey from childhood to adult, through the experiences, thoughts and feelings that can lead to the development of these problems. How they evolve and grow, which disorders develop and why, how we strengthen them and how they become part of us.
And then, the answer ... how to turn them around, to evolve and grow through them, beyond them to become stronger and wiser for our experiences ... beyond them to become the unique, worthy individual that it is our birthright to be.
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As a Child...
-OUR PARENTS ARE GOD to us. We worship the ground they walk on, they gave us life and keep us alive. A father shows his son what it is to be a man; a mother shows, to her daughter, a woman. And yet this same parent, the one we worship, can come to make us feel as though we are inadequate, stupid, weak and worthless. Significant others can do the same to some extent - but our parents are different. Their genes are a part of us, their behaviour towards us strikes at our very existence, our inner-self, our being and we cannot feel any way towards them without feeling the same about part of our self.
Throughout recent history there have been changes in thinking about the influence of parents on their children. Parents have gone from being fully responsible or having no responsibility at all to a middle ground where other things such as peers, school, society, and media play a major part. And they do, but nothing influences us like our parents; their genes are our genes and from the day we are born we are shaped by their beliefs, attitudes and behaviours, we are moulded by their hopes and fears and many people, well into their middle age, are still trying to please their parents and gain their love.
In her self-help book about depression, Alexandra Massey estimates that around 80% of people that she has spoken to about depression are entangled with their parents and stuck.
And research has shown an improvement in the phobic behaviour of adolescents when relationships with their parents improved.
However, the purpose of this section is not to blame, judge or denigrate our parents. Not to justify anger, resentment or hate, for in doing this - something that plays a large part in most people's problems - we only hurt and damage ourselves. The purpose of this section is to understand what happens and why.