This book is simply the most helpful and informative that I have read to date and I have read quite a few. Randi Kreger has pulled a lot of very important and useful information together, that serves not only those trying to cope and understand this illness, but also a balanced and positive atmosphere for those that are suffering. It is a very difficult illness to deal with, but if you start by accepting that people trying to cope with their dysfunctional thoughts, are gravely misunderstood by those trying to help them, it is a good place to begin. I wish I had this book in my hands fifteen years ago, I might have been able to enable my daughter to seek a path out of the tangled mess of thoughts she lives in. This book not only gives you a very, very good understanding of the condition, but also HOPE! Borderlines can get better. Also, she points out that research etc. has changed the way professionals are starting to view this condition. It isn't always abuse. Like parents who lose babies in cot death, I have gone over and over what might have caused my girl to be so unhappy. This book has quite simply changed my life. It has given me something to work with (I always felt so b........y helpless and the NHS have been about as useful as a chocolate screwdriver. It has given me hope and what is so much more important, semantics! So very important and now I am changing the way I say and behave in order not to cause further damage to my daughter. If you have somebody in your life who has this condition, this book is a God send. It should be available on the NHS. I just thank my lucky stars that I found this book, it is helping me tame my Border Lion.