It's not always easy to talk about caring, even to your best friend. It's even harder to find information on making `the job' easier or how to do it better. This book gives all the help and advice needed by non-professionals, individuals who find themselves in a caring role simply because someone they care about needs their help. Sometimes the role of carer arrives suddenly, after an accident or illness experienced by the `Cared For' as Mary puts it. For other people it creeps up slowly. You start by keeping an eye on someone you care about and then one day realise they are no longer able to cope alone.
There is lots of good practical and sensible advice in the book about ways of helping the `Cared For' maintain independence and dignity. This ranges from simple matters like buying a microwave or how to get a blue badge for parking to help in choosing residential accommodation. Quite often people who need care are not willing to except it and there are suggestions for tackling this too. There is an excellent section on financial matters, as with everything it is about knowing who to ask and once again the book leads you to the right sources.
Throughout, the many anecdotes that are included make you realise you're not alone. Whatever you are experiencing, almost certainly someone else will have been there before.
Different stages of caring are dealt with well in this book. Having been in the situation where I simply didn't know what to do next, I am so relieved I now have somewhere to find the answers. I'm lucky that the `Caring for the Carer' chapter isn't one I need yet. But I'll know where to turn when I do.