- Paperback: 256 pages
- Publisher: Rivers Oram Press/Pandora List; 2nd edition edition (1 Jan 1995)
- Language English
- ISBN-10: 0044408986
- ISBN-13: 978-0044408987
- Product Dimensions: 21.7 x 13.7 x 1.9 cm
- Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (1 customer review)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 285,110 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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This work explores the trauma a woman faces when her child leaves and "flies the nest". The author asks whether the moment a child leaves home represents for a woman a longed-for liberation or an irredeemable loss.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
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An excellent read for mothers facing their children leaving home and feeling uneasy about it. It really helped me to face up to it and change things in my life that helped the transition. It put into words things that I was feeling and helped to know I was not alone. It has lots of stories of other mothers going through a similar time.
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86 of 86 people found the following review helpful
Like being wrapped in a soft, flannel blanket
6 Mar 2003
Format:Paperback
Being in the throws of the emptying nest for some time now I have scoured the market for good information to guide me through. I have read many books on the empty nest and didn't realize how insulting they were until I read Shelley Bovey's excellent book. Most writers give the emotional impact of this important trasition a tiny corner in their books and at that not very supportive to say the least. I always felt like they were minimizing my grief and trying to push me out the door without honoring where I really was at. What they are missing is that for many of us all the rest of what they have to say doesn't matter and we can't get there by choosing to - we must grieve our loss first. Like Shelley says, we must look back before we can look ahead. It relieved my anxiety to know that other women had tried this "rush out and explore yourself" advice only to find it all dull and lacking. Now I know that I don't need to rush into all that - I can stay home and sob - releasing the tears as long as I need to knowing that the process will take me where I need to go. I have a whole new life ahead but now it's time to grieve and to feel my emptiness. I'm so comforted. Thank you to Shelley for writing this important book and to all the women who shared themselves within it so honestly. One more thing - the author has done some very interesting work on how this current loss can trigger old losses that haven't been healed. So in grieving this loss we open up and heal old losses that have needed resolution. I find this very strengthening and hopeful.
51 of 51 people found the following review helpful
Thank you Shelley Bovey
17 Sep 2000
Format:Paperback
My third and last child left home 6 months ago. I was utterly devastated, totally unprepared for the sense of loss and emptiness I felt. Shelley's book so dramatically changed my life that I can't thank her enough for writing it. In those pages I founds dozens of women, from all different walks of life, who felt exactly as I did. I felt so validated and normal again. I wasn't going crazy after all. What I was going through, the pain I experienced at the loss of that particular phase of motherhood was very normal. Her book is very well written, researched and full of wisdom and practical advice. This book is a must for any woman or man experiencing a sense of sadness or loss over children leaving home, whether in the past, present or future. I certainly wish I had a book such as this when my first child left home almost 10 years ago. It would have saved me years of doubt and uneasiness that I was maybe over-reacting or being too sensitive about "losing" my children. Shelley's book enabled me to look at the situation, face it and move on with my life. Thanks again Shelley.
43 of 44 people found the following review helpful
A Classic
24 Jan 2003
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
I bought this book about two years ago and I've come back to it again and again. Every time I pick it up I'm struck with a new piece of wisom it offers.
I thought I would never suffer from empty nest syndrome -- I'm a college professor with a Ph.D. -- I thought only pathetic women with no life beyond their kids had problems with this. But empty nest syndrome hit me hard when my older daughter was in high school, while the nest was still very full! I searched for information to help me through, but the vast majority was silly ("now the frig stays full longer"), or simplistic ("take up gardening"). I'm so thankful that I finally found Shelley's book. Her book is written with great sensitivity and compassion, and offers much insight from women who have experienced empty nest syndrome, as well as from psychologists who have dealt with it professionally. A primary thesis of the book is that, for many women (and some men too), children leaving home constitutes a major loss in life, and needs to be grieved, just like any other life altering loss.
This book must have taken Ms. Bovey years to research, but in doing so she has given us a priceless gift. This is one of the few books I will always keep.
I thought I would never suffer from empty nest syndrome -- I'm a college professor with a Ph.D. -- I thought only pathetic women with no life beyond their kids had problems with this. But empty nest syndrome hit me hard when my older daughter was in high school, while the nest was still very full! I searched for information to help me through, but the vast majority was silly ("now the frig stays full longer"), or simplistic ("take up gardening"). I'm so thankful that I finally found Shelley's book. Her book is written with great sensitivity and compassion, and offers much insight from women who have experienced empty nest syndrome, as well as from psychologists who have dealt with it professionally. A primary thesis of the book is that, for many women (and some men too), children leaving home constitutes a major loss in life, and needs to be grieved, just like any other life altering loss.
This book must have taken Ms. Bovey years to research, but in doing so she has given us a priceless gift. This is one of the few books I will always keep.
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