Eileen and I are two birthmothers who have experienced a reunion with the respective son and daughter we gave up for adoption in the 1960's. Both of our reunions have had problems and at times faltered but on the whole can be considered to have been successfull. Nothing prepared us for the wide range of emotions we have fought our way through during the last few years. At the time of our reunions neither of us had ever heard of the Natural Parents Network or ever knowingly spoken to another birthparent. There seemed to be nothing available to read about reunions at the time, especially from the birthparents perspective, nothing to show us that thousands of other birthparents wade through the same sea of emotions, nothing to show us that we were not going mad. Thus we wrote this book that we hope will help birthparents, who are often isolated from their like, to know that they are not alone. Many others told us their stories they said "writing it down helps us to heal"!
. Many other people have since written to say how much the book helped them prepare for their reunion and later reassured them that their feelings were not unique but shared by others. Finally we hoped that this book will also be of use to Adoptees and Adoptive parents helping them to understand some of the grief and loss all birthparents experience, especially during a reunion. If you are reading this then we hope this book will also help you.