I came across the UK Natal Hypnotherapy system after going on a Hypnobirthing (The USA version, Marie Mongan Method) course run by my local NHS Birth Centre. The midwives there are SO impressed with the positive outcomes that relaxation hypnonosis brings for mothers and babies (and fathers too!) that they actually offer the course for free as part of the birth preparation. I really enjoyed the Hypnobirthing course but if I'm honest, I found the language in the book and the American drawl on the accompanying CD a little bit...I dont know...alien, annoying...not really sure how to put it. The last thing I wanted during my birth was to be listening to the CD and thinking "god, that voice is annoying"!!!! So, I was recommended UK Natal Hypnotherapy instead of Hypnobirthing by a friend and having done both, I actually wished I had followed this from the start, however the two systems are entirely complimentary, so if you want to do both and see which works for you, go for it. Its probably a very personal thing but I just found this one was more up my street and straight forward. With Natal Hypnotherapy, there is just one, easy breathing relaxation technique to learn rather than whole load of different breathing techniques for use at different stages of labour as there is with Hypnobirthing. For me, the Natal Hypnotherapy technique was great, because in the throws of labour, I didnt remember to do my "J-breathing" at this point or my "birth breathing" at that stage and anyway, because this was my first baby, I had no idea what stage of labour was what! Looking back at the time scales, I was well into established labour and half way there when I decided it might be best to go and feed all my animals as I might not be able to later! Using the techniques I learnt in the book and CDs, I was comfortable enough to be in established labour, walking around outside and shoving hay into bags to take round to the animals and just leaning against the water butts to do my breathing ever few minutes when the surges came! I do remember saying to my husband: "Sorry I can't help, just seem to need to stop and focus" and he just laughed and told me he would let me off as I was having a baby! I'm SO SO glad it was all really relaxed, we were at home together rather than surrounded by strangers telling me where to go and what to do, it was just my husband and I enjoying our last few hours as a couple before our son arrived and working as a team, with him reading me the personal positive affirmations we had worked on together from the techniques suggested in the book. My son was born only about 4 hours later!! Our midwife was a bit sceptical about hypno-relaxation before she came to us, but afterwards was a total convert! DO get the accompanying CDs (and Maggie Howell has the MOST beautiful, silky, relaxing voice you could imagine and the more you practise, practise, practise your relaxation listening to them prior to the birth, the better). The arrival of the book means it is now a brilliant and complete system to get you the best birth possible. It clearly takes you through, step by step, to look at any negative feelings you might have around birth and how you can address them to create a positive outcome. The fear- tension- pain cycle will be a real lightbulb moment for most people as you realise that nature would never have designed birth to be a painful trauma. After all, it wouldnt really help our species survive if giving birth was so dreadful you never wanted to do it again! Why would we be the only species on the planet for whom giving birth was designed to be this painful, major medical emergency? Of course the answer is that it is our fears and what we humans do to interfere with the natural birth process which causes all the problems. So, please know, if you follow this process, you really can have a great birth. We had our baby son (our first baby and just under 8lbs, so, yes, you can do it even if you haven't done it before and you are a total woosey normally!), very peacefully, at home, in water. No screaming and shouting and begging for help and pain killers or anything like that. Infact, I didnt need or have any pain relief at all because I didn't have any pain (actually I tell a lie, I did have 2 paracetamol after he was born as I was quite sore once the endorphins had worn off!) I did have some stinging just as his head crowned, but it didnt last long and was gone as soon as his head was out. I listened to the birth music and just breathed the baby down. I could hear Maggies voice on the CD player calming and encouraging me all the way though and my husband did the same. Don't get me wrong, the sensations of birth are hugely powerful, massive feelings of pressure and stretching that are totally all consuming and at times quite uncomfortable (which was where the water helped as I could very easily try new positions supported in the water) but there was NO pain and NO feelings of fear or trauma. I felt completely in control and in deep communication with my baby the whole time. Just amazing, especially when you need to know I am the first one reaching for the paracetamol at the first sign of a headache!!
If you can, it is worth going along to one of the courses Natal Hypnotherapy run as well as I think that helps bring it all together, but even if you can't, the book and CDs are brilliant birth tools. I feel SO empowered by having given birth this way that I am considering training as a Natal Hypnotherapy practitioner!
I'd also highly recommended The Fathers Home Birth Handbook by Leah Hazard, a really brilliant book for giving you confidence in the birth process even if you dont plan to give birth at home.