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Guys Aren't the Only Ones Fighting a Battle for Purity
The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it's easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there. You just want to be normal–to fit in, to be liked, to look attractive to the opposite sex. But are you paying too high a price?
This counterpart to the award-winning Every Young Man's Battle can help you:
· learn how the sexual battle begins in your heart and mind
· understand your hunger for attention from guys
· recognize and avoid the potential pitfalls awaiting young women on the journey toward adulthood and possibly marriage
· find out how the media, novels, fashion, internet chat rooms, and body and beauty obsessions influence your sexual choices–and what you can do about it
· guard your mind, heart, and body against sexual and emotional compromise
· develop a deeper, more satisfying level of intimacy with God
Whether you have so far protected yourself emotionally and sexually, feel that you've been robbed of your purity, or have given in to temptation in some way, this book can help you achieve or reclaim sexual integrity. It can also guide you through the temptations and pressures of young adulthood while demonstrating how you can live your life to the fullest–without regrets.
Includes a comprehensive workbook for individual or group study.
The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it's easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there. You just want to be normal–to fit in, to be liked, to look attractive to the opposite sex. But are you paying too high a price?
This counterpart to the award-winning Every Young Man's Battle can help you:
· learn how the sexual battle begins in your heart and mind
· understand your hunger for attention from guys
· recognize and avoid the potential pitfalls awaiting young women on the journey toward adulthood and possibly marriage
· find out how the media, novels, fashion, internet chat rooms, and body and beauty obsessions influence your sexual choices–and what you can do about it
· guard your mind, heart, and body against sexual and emotional compromise
· develop a deeper, more satisfying level of intimacy with God
Whether you have so far protected yourself emotionally and sexually, feel that you've been robbed of your purity, or have given in to temptation in some way, this book can help you achieve or reclaim sexual integrity. It can also guide you through the temptations and pressures of young adulthood while demonstrating how you can live your life to the fullest–without regrets.
Includes a comprehensive workbook for individual or group study.
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Format:Paperback
early teenage angst about boys. I desperately needed a godly perspective for my teenage daughter and no amount of talk on my part would get through. so i took her love of reading and gave her this book , which has impacted her decision making about dating and other issues dramatically. it has opened up clear lines of communication about all things teenage. I also read it so we could talk about issues adressed.
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What a book! Such a great help, with all the pressures young women face today! Glad I've read it now, as I've just started uni and am more confident on facing situations which have the potential to arise!!
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
Honest and Helpful
12 Jun 2011
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
I am 21 and grew up in a solid Christian home. I was sheltered and protected from sexual situations growing up, so much so that I didn't really see myself as a sexual being. I had been taught about purity and was dedicated to waiting. Imagine my surprise when I found myself quick to compromise in a friendship with a guy. So I bought this book.
This book is not perfect, and I wouldn't recommend it as the sole resource for a young woman seeking to understand her sexuality as a Christian. Even so, it's helpful. I was encouraged by it, even though it is geared for someone younger than me. For most girls my age who have dated before or dealt with this longer, this book will be too young.
Mothers, I would encourage you not to be squeamish about the fact that this book is frank. You don't need to have "the talk" with your daughters... you need to have an ongoing discussion. It was very easy for me to make promises when I was 12 and sex sounded gross anyways, but now I need solid, honest advice and accountability. As hard as you try, your girls will be exposed to all of this (by "this" I mean masturbation, oral sex, etc) and they will only respect you for being willing to talk honestly about it. Being scared of sex is NOT a good long-term plan for purity...believe me. Because my sexuality was not integrated into who I was and what I was willing to talk to God and others about, I was very vulnerable.
Pros
Jesus is at the center, as He should be. This book is chock full of scripture.
This book is honest, practical, and specific. As someone else mentioned, they did fail to address pornography, though the section on masturbation was helpful for me because I was never sure whether it was a bad idea or not (the church does not talk about these things nearly enough!)
The testimonies from girls in their teens or early 20's helps girls remember that they're nowhere near alone in this and that it's NOT WRONG to deal with sexual temptation.
They deal with the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of purity.
Cons
It came across as a little cheesy at times, especially in the "Christianese" paragraphs they added at the end of each chapter. I love Jesus but I had to chuckle at times. Changing the verses (ex: no temptation has seized you except what is common to [woman]) makes them awkward, though I understand that they're trying to make them relevant.
It is geared for high school age girls, making it a little young for single adults like me.
Some may find it too "old-fashioned," but I think aiming for a high standard is a good idea. It's at least worth thinking about (and praying about).
The introduction and other sections of the book tend to paint guys as somewhat dangerous, manipulative, etc. Not all guys are out to use girls, and I believe that the idea that guys can compartmentalize and not get as emotionally hurt by casual sex is not really true.
This book is not perfect, and I wouldn't recommend it as the sole resource for a young woman seeking to understand her sexuality as a Christian. Even so, it's helpful. I was encouraged by it, even though it is geared for someone younger than me. For most girls my age who have dated before or dealt with this longer, this book will be too young.
Mothers, I would encourage you not to be squeamish about the fact that this book is frank. You don't need to have "the talk" with your daughters... you need to have an ongoing discussion. It was very easy for me to make promises when I was 12 and sex sounded gross anyways, but now I need solid, honest advice and accountability. As hard as you try, your girls will be exposed to all of this (by "this" I mean masturbation, oral sex, etc) and they will only respect you for being willing to talk honestly about it. Being scared of sex is NOT a good long-term plan for purity...believe me. Because my sexuality was not integrated into who I was and what I was willing to talk to God and others about, I was very vulnerable.
Pros
Jesus is at the center, as He should be. This book is chock full of scripture.
This book is honest, practical, and specific. As someone else mentioned, they did fail to address pornography, though the section on masturbation was helpful for me because I was never sure whether it was a bad idea or not (the church does not talk about these things nearly enough!)
The testimonies from girls in their teens or early 20's helps girls remember that they're nowhere near alone in this and that it's NOT WRONG to deal with sexual temptation.
They deal with the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of purity.
Cons
It came across as a little cheesy at times, especially in the "Christianese" paragraphs they added at the end of each chapter. I love Jesus but I had to chuckle at times. Changing the verses (ex: no temptation has seized you except what is common to [woman]) makes them awkward, though I understand that they're trying to make them relevant.
It is geared for high school age girls, making it a little young for single adults like me.
Some may find it too "old-fashioned," but I think aiming for a high standard is a good idea. It's at least worth thinking about (and praying about).
The introduction and other sections of the book tend to paint guys as somewhat dangerous, manipulative, etc. Not all guys are out to use girls, and I believe that the idea that guys can compartmentalize and not get as emotionally hurt by casual sex is not really true.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
AWESOME RESOURCE!
24 Aug 2010
Format:Paperback|Amazon Verified Purchase
I have been working with youth for 8 years. This book is an awesome resource for teen girls! I reccommend they don't read it until they are high school age--not middle school-- as some content is mature. But it is a great way for girls to learn about remaining pure & stuff they don't want to hear from "grown-ups". I also suggest that Moms read it before giving it to their girls. Just in case they feel comfortable talking about it with you.
15 of 21 people found the following review helpful
More Harm Than Good
18 Aug 2011
Format:Paperback
I have been a youth minister for over a decade. Purity issues come up in every generation of student with which I have worked. I am always looking for new material to help raise spiritually and emotionally healthy children.
There are a few issues with this book. First, the basic premise splits women and men arbitrarily. As though young men do not want a spiritual and emotional connection and young women do not crave physical affection. I have spent enough time counseling men who are heart broken after losing their first love to know this is not a fair portrayal of teenage emotions. And I have heard feedback from many a women student and adult that they feel especially "dirty" because they think they are the only females at the church who want to get physical.
Secondly, the book assumes that the only intimate love a person should have is with their husband. Since these teenagers are not getting married anytime soon they should guard their hearts. (How well guarded should they be? Well, let us see. She gives the okay on giving your boyfriend a high five. But being around him in swimwear is a no no.) However, I tell my students we are people who are made to love. High school is a time when students are developing the skills that will last a life time. Dating is an important part of nourishing that area of their life that craves companionship while preparing them for more mature relationships in the future.
Thirdly, they make arguments from natural design that fall flat. She will say things like male and female genitalia are designed for each other and therefore God desires only heterosexual relationships. (More on homosexuality in a minute) But at the same time God designed the teenage years to be the most "horny" period of a persons life. By her logic we should be engaging in the sexual design for which God created us.
Regarding Lesbianism, when it comes to the issue of homosexuality she is accurate in the biblical passages she presents but does not show pastoral compassion for those females who struggle to with sexual identification issues.
Finally, it is just an unrealistic portrayal of how teenage minds think. My staff and I laughed a lot about how the book says "steamy love letters" are inappropriate. We had never come across that problem in our time as ministers. We thought kids don't do that. Kids do things like text pictures of their privates to each other. Why is she not talking about that instead of "steam love notes"?
This book tows the evangelical party line. But in the end it does more harm then good. It denies that every young women want more than emotional connections. It deprives teenagers of developmentally appropriate life giving relationships. And it is clear that she just does not understand teenagers whatsoever. Sadly, I do not have another book in the genre to recommend instead.
There are a few issues with this book. First, the basic premise splits women and men arbitrarily. As though young men do not want a spiritual and emotional connection and young women do not crave physical affection. I have spent enough time counseling men who are heart broken after losing their first love to know this is not a fair portrayal of teenage emotions. And I have heard feedback from many a women student and adult that they feel especially "dirty" because they think they are the only females at the church who want to get physical.
Secondly, the book assumes that the only intimate love a person should have is with their husband. Since these teenagers are not getting married anytime soon they should guard their hearts. (How well guarded should they be? Well, let us see. She gives the okay on giving your boyfriend a high five. But being around him in swimwear is a no no.) However, I tell my students we are people who are made to love. High school is a time when students are developing the skills that will last a life time. Dating is an important part of nourishing that area of their life that craves companionship while preparing them for more mature relationships in the future.
Thirdly, they make arguments from natural design that fall flat. She will say things like male and female genitalia are designed for each other and therefore God desires only heterosexual relationships. (More on homosexuality in a minute) But at the same time God designed the teenage years to be the most "horny" period of a persons life. By her logic we should be engaging in the sexual design for which God created us.
Regarding Lesbianism, when it comes to the issue of homosexuality she is accurate in the biblical passages she presents but does not show pastoral compassion for those females who struggle to with sexual identification issues.
Finally, it is just an unrealistic portrayal of how teenage minds think. My staff and I laughed a lot about how the book says "steamy love letters" are inappropriate. We had never come across that problem in our time as ministers. We thought kids don't do that. Kids do things like text pictures of their privates to each other. Why is she not talking about that instead of "steam love notes"?
This book tows the evangelical party line. But in the end it does more harm then good. It denies that every young women want more than emotional connections. It deprives teenagers of developmentally appropriate life giving relationships. And it is clear that she just does not understand teenagers whatsoever. Sadly, I do not have another book in the genre to recommend instead.
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