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Don'ts for Husbands [Hardcover]

Blanche Ebbutt
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Book Description

25 Jun 2007
Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives are facsimile editions of the original books published by A&C Black in 1913. Each pocket-sized book contains hundreds of snippets of entertaining advice for a happy marriage, which rings true almost 100 years after they were written. The reissued titles are ideal Christmas stocking fillers, and gifts for weddings, engagements and anniversaries. Advice appears under the following chapters: 1. Personalities 2. How to Avoid Discord 3. Habits 4. Financial Matters 5. Evenings at Home 6. Jealousy 7. Recreation 8. Food 9. Dress 10. Entertaining 11. Household Management 12. Children 'Among the bon mots there is much wisdom. They would make great stocking fillers, or wedding anniversary gifts!' Good Book Guide (October 2007)

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  • Hardcover: 80 pages
  • Publisher: A & C Black Publishers Ltd; Min edition (25 Jun 2007)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0713687916
  • ISBN-13: 978-0713687910
  • Product Dimensions: 11.4 x 7 x 1 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (58 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 1,896 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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`Tips for a happy marriage published nearly a century ago look set
to be a hit this year. The guidebooks are seen now as amusing and wise -
and relevant in 2007.' -- Daily Express, May 29, 2007

`Today there are enough tomes about men being from Mars and weird
rules of dating... so it is expected that Blanche Ebbutt's oeuvre will
provide more comedy value than useful advice. And yet, and yet... there are
eternal verities there... There are plenty of gloriously retro bits about
women censoring their men's socks and husbands learning to "lead" rather
than "drive" their wives; but who could argue when Ebbutt says that there
is an art in being married, and that you should not "exhaust your artistic
power in getting married" but put some effort into staying that way... What
is required, Ebbutt hints from the grave, is simple niceness: be as
considerate towards a life partner as towards a friend... So, go on: clear
up those pencil sharpenings, chaps. And women, tell Him Indoors that his
hair looks nice. Can't hurt, can it?' -- Libby Purves, The Times, May 29, 2007

`Words of wisdom for a happy marriage from nearly a century ago...
The advice comes from a set of guidebooks on marriage written on the eve
of the First World War which are predicted to shoot to the top of the
bestseller list. The somewhat old-fashioned `Don'ts for Husbands and Wives'
penned by Blanche Ebbutt in 1913 were first published at a time when women
stayed at home while their husbands went out to work. Times have changed
since then, but the advice could be considered as relevant today as ever.' -- Daily Mail, May 28, 2007

`[Don'ts for Husbands and Don't's for Wives] could become this
year's most unlikely bestseller... The books were published in 1913 and
remained in print for 20 years. [The author's] wit and wisdom are set to
find a new audience when the guides are reprinted by A&C Black as part of
the publisher's bicentenary celebrations. The guides evoke a world where
domestic servants were taken for granted and men viewed women as
second-class citizens, to be patronised or set to work on domestic tasks.
Wives receive sisterly instructions designed to make them the best possible
partners for the flawed, often ridiculous men they have married.' -- The Times, May 28, 2007

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Blanche Ebbutt wrote the original editions of Don'ts for Husbands and Don'ts for Wives, published in 1913.

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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Sweet little book 23 May 2008
Bought this today, but finished it quickly, as it's quite tiny. However, I thought it was lovely - some bits were funny or quaint, but to disagree with the other reviewer, I thought a lot of the advise was actually still very good and worth thinking about.

Maybe not one for the feminists, but not as old-fashioned as you might think either; much of the advise is basically about treating your wife with respect and thoughtfulness (which I must say, I'd prefer to being treated as another man any day!). I can't wait to get started on the one for wives now :)
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
By Nicola Hardy TOP 1000 REVIEWER
This charming miniature book gives an insight into 'the rules' of marriage just after the turn of the twentieth century. In spite of warning readers against being "too didactic in the home", feisty author Blanche Ebbutt wastes no time in telling men what their role and duties in the home are.

The book is divided into eleven chapters: General Habits, Personal Relations, Jealousy, Hints on Finance, Household Matters, Recreation and Holidays, Health, Dress, Hobbies, Food and Children. Whilst some of the offerings included are well past their sell-by-date:

- "Don't spend night after night at your club, leaving your wife alone to count the hours until your return."

the vast majority of the advice given in the book is as fresh as the day it was written, even if the language of the book makes it seem otherwise:

- "Don't think that because you and your wife married for love there will never be a cloud in your sky."
- "Don't forget to be your wife's best friend as well as her husband."
- "Don't be unsympathetic if your wife's worries seem to you to be trivial."

Some of the financial advice seems especially apt following the credit crunch:

- "Don't try to live on too big a scale ..."
- "Don't take a bigger house than you need just for show."
- "Don't live on the edge of your income while leading your wife to suppose that you have plenty of money."

although other pearls of wisdom do leave you wondering just what married life was like in 1913:

- "Don't sharpen pencils all over the house as you walk about ..."

Whilst I wouldn't recommend this book as a remedy for a marital problems in the twenty-first century, it will give many husbands something to think (and smile) about.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just what I wanted 17 April 2011
I spent some time looking for a first wedding anniversary present for my daughter and her husband. Because I new the first anniversary signifies paper I thought a book on marriage would be good. Then I saw these really sweet his and hers books on tips from 1913. My daughter and her husband were going on a late honeynoon safari so I was able to slip them into there luggage ( did you pack this bag yourself madam ) as the anniversay was while they were away. These books were just what I was looking for and my daughter loved them.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Valuable social history 13 Aug 2010
From a gone by era where manners and politness were everything.
Seems amusing now but was written in all seriousness at the time.
A book to enjoy with 21st Century tongue in cheek.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars A little bit of fun... 30 Dec 2009
By Rhianna
I bought this book for my husband for xmas as a stocking filler. Its easy to read and some of the suggestions are so dated but very funny, it said to not drop pencil shavings on the carpet! We have had a laugh whilst reading through this little book, some of the suggestions are still true to life now and are things you can think about with your own marriage!
If you are looking for a small gift that is meant for a bit of fun this is the book for you!

Don'ts for Wives

I also bought the matching book for myself which is equally as fun and charming! I recommend them as a pair. Don'ts for Wives.
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful
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This book was written in 1913 and I at first expected it to be of the same kind as Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894 - a hillarious reminder of how different things used to be and how horrible in many ways. It turns out that either the author was much more enlightened here, or that the 20 years from 1894 to 1913 really brought about a dramatic shift in attitudes.

The basic premise of the man as sole breadwinner and the wife as a stay at home mother is definitely still there and while most will find the advice on the use of servants a bit quaint and anachronistic, there is plenty of sound advice in this - something I wish more people would read seriously, rather than just for fun.

The advice in here revolves around creating a more caring and comfortable relationship, based on mutual respect and trust. Some bits will still be funny (to refrain from dropping cigar ashes on carpets to improve the colouring being one such case) but overall the message is take care of your wife but do not, under any circumstances treat her as an immature dependent or maid. Luckily, the same message comes across in the companion book Don'ts for Wives, which really should be read by both parties as well.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Small but funny 8 Feb 2012
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I bought this for my husband for Christmas, it's very funny reading the 'rules' and relating them to the modern day. It's a wonderful little read, charmingly written - a lovely gift.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Made them laugh
Product as described, delivered very quickly. It was a lot smaller than I expected... but I think thats my wrong impression than any refection on the seller. Great condition. Read more
Published 2 days ago by Jo
5.0 out of 5 stars Nice present
Got this to give my husband as apresent for our anniversry. It is quite funny and some of it spot on!
Published 19 days ago by nmor
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant
I bought this for my husband for Christmas as a little stocking filler. He LOVES it! Carries it around and shows people!
Published 19 days ago by Kirsty
5.0 out of 5 stars old fashioned advice for husbands
Couldn't resist this for half of a modern day couple. Would recommend as a humerous present on a low budget.
Published 27 days ago by MRS JP GELIPTER
5.0 out of 5 stars Happily surprised, great tiny book!
I thought this to be just another novelty book but this teeny-tiny little book (only 7cm x 11,5cm in size! in inches 2.75" x 4. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Paivi
5.0 out of 5 stars good
This book is good helps ,men to understand the way to a great marriage and happy spouse and a happy family
Published 2 months ago by Dumba
5.0 out of 5 stars a must have
Well, come on ladies, dont they all need just a little guidance!!!!! No, not really, but it is a funny little book
Published 4 months ago by Stephanie Inglis
4.0 out of 5 stars Bought for a joke wedding present
Bought as part of a pair along with the Do's and Don'ts for Wives for a joke wedding present for some old school marriage advice!
Published 4 months ago by J. L. Plumb
5.0 out of 5 stars Funny
Bought this for newly married son just to give him a few pointers. He has a sense of humour so I think I am safe!
Published 4 months ago by M. Gallagher-jones
5.0 out of 5 stars Very happy
This will be fantastic in the gift pack for my fiancé on the morning of our wedding. Nice bit if humour!
Published 5 months ago by Pen Name
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