The title and cover caught my eye in a megabookstore and although I usually read fat novels, not slim self-help books, I figured I'd sit down and dip in. I admit it: I'd been stewing about a confrontation over the holidays. Well, guess what? The advice is friendly and readable and so good that I ended up buying the book and pressing it on family members. There are a few semi-lame chapters, but basically, Carlson helps us let go of crazy nonsense and not let scrooges hijack our brain waves (especially at holiday time). If something is bothering you, he encourages you to think: Okay, I see why this is making me mad. But why is it making me so so so mad? If someone is playing victim, he helps you stop playing rescuer. If someone is acting like a turkey (his word), he helps you get him/her to act like an adult and to disengage. The funny thing is, I *am* an advice columnist myself--since 1994--for Girls' Life Magazine, but even we authors can use peptalks once in a while!
Carol Weston, author of GIRLTALK and FOR GIRLS ONLY and THE DIARY OF MELANIE MARTIN; [...]