Having been through the divorce process myself and then assisted many others I deplore the ignorance with which we all start out. In my state, as in most, child support collection is very poor. Also many women have to leave their homes and file for divorce in order to escape abuse. Then these domestic refugees are subjected to the abuse of the system. This book is not easy reading, but its anecdotes are repeated many times over around the country.. Women are apt to be naive. Bride's Magazine does not do follow up stories. Many of us expected some degree of fairness. We thought that perjury was punishable and didn't join in the lying game. Besides naivete, women are much more apt to be easily humiliated and thereby can be manuveured into being the one to file for divorce. Well educated women like the wives of presidents have been trained to hang in there no matter what. That schooling comes from another time, and class. Our sisters in poor neighborhoods never are supported because many of the fathers have given up on seeking regular employment and are not in their children's lives at all, and in some cases that is best. Reflecting on this book has put our culture in a new light for me. I believe that men also should take heed. Women may be the canaries in the mine who warn us all that our justice system could fall for all and if so democracy cannot survive. One would hope that the men who read this book see it as a challenge to compassion not victim competition. Marion Strand Center for Law Access.