This excellent book will give you a very good road map when it comes to divorce. If you find yourself in more complicated territory this book won't be sufficient on its own but it should at least help you to ask the right kinds of questions.
Some very good advice is that lawyers make for expensive counsellors. The other point that could be stressed more is that lawyers are only human; they make mistakes. As with most things in life you should not rely completely on somebody else to look after your own interests. Finally, despite pretty much anything else that is going on, check your bill and challenge it promptly - Have you been double-charged for copy letters?What are you being charged for emails? (it might be the same as a letter); Is your lawyer sending lots of long letters (expensive) when short letters would do (less expensive)? Are you wasting time on correspondence when moving swiftly to issuing proceedings would get the whole thing on a time-table set by the Court? (particularly relevant if the other side is ignoring your letters) Is the breakdown of charges clear? It is incredibly difficult to focus on bills when in the midst of a divorce but it is time well spent. A good lawyer will help you but they are also there to make money based on chargeable time. Nothing wrong with that but make sure they don't make too much at your expense.