I bought this book after realising that our 3 year old daughter ruled the roost (yes, we have a 'diva' in our house!). We had got to the stage where we dreaded the weekends as, instead of being time when we could enjoy being together as a family, it was fraught with tantrums, turmoil and tears!
I wanted a book from an 'expert', but one who has his feet firmly planted on the ground floor - and the up front admission from Charlie Taylor that his own kids play up too was very reassuring!
The premise of this book is that you can change behaviour - but it won't happen overnight. It is better to target one behavour at a time, change that, and then try something else - so reward charts where you are trying to change six things at once are not going to work!
How often have you sat back and realised that all you have done all day is tell your child off? Yes, me too....but Charlie Taylor suggests that if you praise your child six times for every one time that you tell them off, you can change negative behaviours. It is really hard to do when you are used to starting every other sentence with 'DON'T...' but it does work!
This book is full of practical, doable suggestions, from the 'pebble jar' to tips on getting your kids to behave on car journeys.
Our house used to be a dictatorship with the 3 year old in charge.....we are slowly, steadily, approaching a democracy. This book gave me the confidence to know that I could bring about change - but that it had to come from us as parents first.