I read this book whilst awaiting the birth of my son, to a man who had a nervous breakdown because his ex wanted to move his child to scotland,500 miles away from where we and she lived, to reduce his access from alternate weekends, and half of all school holidays to 4 weeks a year! As a woman and a mother I am disgusted the courts allow anyone to have the power to get a parent out of a child's life..... The courts didn't even seem to mind she moved a new partner in on the afternoon, my husband left! He was accused in court of being a "passive father" as he obviously didn't go and take his daughter away from what the courts documented as his ex having "mentally abusive relationship with her child" with a woman who had questionable morals. But as you will read in this book...he never stood a chance against the "private family courts". His barrister told him "one day your daughter will vote with her feet" ....on the day the judge ruled his daughter was allowed to be taken up to scotland, she was 9 at the time. The ex got remarried, had another affair and moved the next partner in 3 days after her second husband moved out...but we are not allowed to comment on this or the psychological effect it has on the child! My husband got 6 weeks contact a year and his ex was to pay for flights down to see us.....has she???? occasionally when her life is going good,or after a barrage of solicitors letters, we don't pay much child support as he ended up on benefit so her attitude is "no pay, no see" unless we pay.... she uses her child in a donkey and carrot scenerio...to make him comply. My other deep sadness is my ex stopped seeing my three children around the same time as all the above happened and I know how hard it is to watch your children cry for a man who exits their life for no reason. I hate my ex for this and this alone. As he is the only other person in the world who should want to love and protect "our" children as much as I do...and he is hurting them in a way I can't protect them from....and as their mother I want to.
This book highlights just how badly "good" parents can be treated, the law should make contact a HUMAN RIGHT... for the child and the absent parent unless there are "PROVEN" abuse reasons, for there not being. We were members of F4J and I saw the deep sadness of many men who were fighting just to be part of their children's lives by a small minority of women who wanted control...and the manipulation game they play to get what they want.....
NO BAD PARENT would comply so much to see his child as David Chick and many other parents do...if they did not want to be part of that child's life...they have 2 choices: to fight or walk away...David and my husband chose to fight to be a Dad to the children they love, and for that they pay the price...Our society should value the parents who take their parental responsiblities seriously and support them.