Hi Dave, your books sound just like how my father treated us! i think the hard thing is it is the fathers that mainly attack! so when its your mother...ermm, i dont know how i woud feel, its weird cos i will forgive my mum if she ever hurt me(she did'nt) but i could never forgive my dad! i hate him! at the age of 12 i took a overdose and fell semiconsiouse and forced to eat charcole at the hospital, because of Him!!when i was 11 my older sister spoke up because now one else in my family would(my mum worked nights so she wouldnt have had a clue!)2 months after my dad left i was put in foster care because from that moment my dad went life just seemed fake!
when my dad went to prison for what he had done, i all off a suddurn had all this freedom and i just didnt know what to do so i come out like a coward got into drugs/alchol/boys/unprotected sex/raving(yes at 13 uptell 15-and i will tell you why i changed at 15 in a minute!!!!), good theres so many times i could of been with a murdrer!!
so soon i started to feel unloved by the hole world and thats why i took an overdose! when i recoverd things got from bad to worse, i craved mens attention cos thats all i knew my body was my only charm!!sadly:(!
it was during one of these man dating bizarreness! that i met the man who showerd me with love but because of my greed of exceptence i never knew i had it tell he told me to chose! but i couldnt trust him because to get to close to a man is something longterm and from their thats when the cracks start to show=danger!(god theirs a much better way of explaining that but im not at all best literate!)
after a week something amazing happend i was pregnant with his child, 'ok i was only 15 yrs old at the time'but that only matterd to socialty cos to me my baby was the oly reason i chose to stay with my loving boyfriend! he is a 'credit controler' i am a sahm(stay at home mum)!
well anyway since then i've had another 2 kids so in total i have 3 children(sons) and yes im only 20 *gasp* but at least i know my kids are loved fed and clean, and they to have feelings just like you and i!!
im really greatfull you've done your books on your abused past because some abused children who are young seem to think that what they go through is normal everyone goes through it, but you're not aloud to say nothing cos then that means you are talking about your family problems and thats sin in their eyes! for if they should grass they will forever be punished!!! something simila to this was drummed into me!
so i hope your books has to be taught in all schools! and children should know their statments of abuse would aways be taken serieosly!, and understand whats right and wrong and it aint their fault ect...!
anyway im gonna go now cos i dont think im makeing much sense to! i just wanna let you know i will that little boy who you once was and place him deeply in my heart along with my child! and smile at the great helpful man his become!
and someone said you need a levels or something to teach kids about abuse!!? ermm no you are wrong a person with a perfectly happy childhood that goes on to help stop child abuse and teach children/abused children the right or wrong!! they will still never ever understand what its like being seriosly abused for only us abused people can know that but yes you can sympaths bit like something you will do with a blind person!!
anyway Dave i've told you my sad life story as its fair that i know of yours! also im not ashamed because noone here knows my name! but still i have counsaling and i have my 16+ social worker cos i've left fostercare & childrems homes and if i decide to go collage soon the social worker will be here tell im 24!
To Dave, wife and stephen (((hugs))) for you and your family and wish you all very very well and the best for the future xxxx