I have read this book and have nothing but respect for Karma Nirvana as well as all those who work tirelessly to eradicate cultural practices that have no place in any society. The book tackles many serious issues and highlights some very tragic cases of forced marriage and honour killings in a mature way. My only criticism is that there is limited data differentiating Asians of which there are many who do not condone this and in fact accept mixed marriages. The large percentage of people who carry out these crimes are from specific socio economic back grounds.
As a britsh Pakistani, l am in a mixed marriage, grew up speaking English as do my parents who are educated.
I think to be a cultural expert a more balenced view is important as l do think the demographics of famnilies involved are qute telling, although of course it is not unique to certain criteria it is more prevelant.
We were fully integrated into British life and l have never suffered a backlash for being married to my Swiss husband. I am also proud of my heritage and have lived in Pakistan.
I think culturally there needs to be a much more detailed study as not every Asian l know has had remotely simnilar experiences and it is not a given that being Asian equates with forced marriages for example. However, not to negate from the book it is compelling and having worked in a large London school where majority of the students were Asian l know these practices are all too common and it is important to bring out these crimes into the public arena.
The book addresses the need for greater support from authorities which is undeniable but who will pay for this? In one comment Jas says Asians can not be confided in this may be true within som elements of the communities but l beg to dffer having helped a friend to leave a home which was extremely oppressive for her boyfriend. It does not sit comfortably to have the entire Asian community maligned because l do think there is a need for balence.
The book makes insightful and shocking reading l urge everyone to read it but with the caveat this is not representative of everyone in the Asian community. This is an important point to make because the impression the books provides is that it happens in evey family. I am sorry deeply for all those mentioned in the book and beyond as well as highly encoauraged at the regulation which Jas works with to prevent this from happening. My comments are not intended to undermine the wonderful work Karma Nirvana do but again l think balence is important