"Dating For Dummies," 3rd Edition, is a most thorough, comprehensive book that covers an exhaustive amount of material from preliminary dating tips to preparing for "the big day" to playing it safe.
Do you know what kinds of foods to avoid on a first date? Well, nationally syndicated WOR radio host, Dr. Joy Browne, has a pretty hefty list! Whether scouting around for first-date attire or first-date locations, Dr. Browne makes the dating waters navigation easy. She even tackles those "embarrassing moments." Whether your pants/skirt/bra split or you "pass wind," the good doctor has spelled out an exact formula for all kinds of surprises.
Newbie (especially those getting back into the dating scene after divorce), intermittent, or the more advanced dater will discover a guide that eliminates the guesswork when traveling on a dating tour de force. I mean, even the serial dater will likely find Dr. Browne's cheat sheet, "Hug Index," which gives a description of a variety of hugs and the usual connotation behind them, handy!
The final four chapters each provide a top-ten list kicked off with Chapter 23, "Ten+ Do's and Don'ts of Internet Dating"; Chapter 24 and 25 are spot on with "Ten Ways to Know You're in Love" and "Ten Sexual Commandments of Dating," respectively. Dr. Browne's final chapter, "Ten Ways to Make You and Your Date Miserable," ends the book on what sounds like a downer, but is actually practical and real. Who, after all, wants to go out with someone who swears, hollers, whines, blames ... get the point?
The appendix "Catch Phrases" gets behind the nitty-gritty tongue-and-cheek translations behind the clichés posed in the dating arena. I love the dreaded "Can we just be friends" translation? For instance; a few choice examples behind its meaning: "There's no chemistry." "I'd rather die than kiss you." "I'm seeing someone else."
For those readers who want a book that is written for everybody under the sun; forget it. Dr. Browne is too real, honest; a courageous lone star among a constellation of "don't make any wavers," and will not compromise her views to be part of what could have been a watered-down (i.e., too generic to be accurate), homogenized guide to fit every lifestyle and belief. She's writing for divorced/unmarried/single people who are heterosexuals and reside in the United States. (Here's one of her "no-exceptions" rules: Don't start dating until ONE YEAR from the ACTUAL DATE of the divorce.) Readers can appreciate that she has done her research for them, thus she delivers accurate, personalized material to aid them in their specific journeys.
Behind the treasure-trove of advice, probably the best thing about "Dating for Dummies" is that Dr. Browne's chatty, light writing style has plenty of humor to tickle even the most serious reader's funny bone. So, the book, although a "dating bible" in not only a source to read with a yellow highlighter in hand, study well, and then revisit, but also one to really enjoy from beginning to end.
Stacy Lytwyn, Journalist/Teacher/Motivational Speaker
Author: CONSUMMATE CONNECTICUT: DAY TRIPS WITH PANACHE