Anyone coping with trauma or who wants or needs to know how to help someone coping with trauma will benefit from reading this book. When I am or have been really struggling to just get through the day, and all I could do was eat sleep and read a few pages...this is the book I read. It is always by my bed within reach. I have bought copies for friends, asked my therapist to read it, and had the good fortune to meet Jon Allen as a patient in a psyche hosptial where he taught trauma patients about what trauma does to people and how to cope. I wish I could convey the deep understanding and compassion and dedication this man shared with us and how much he listened to each and every persons story with such attention and helpful feedback. This book is a reflection of all that I experienced and more. The chapters on emotion, memory and relationships helped me to understand things I thought I already understood. This book has helped me and helped me help others. I wish everyone would read this book. There are so many ways people get traumatized and don't even know it and even if they did, so many don't know that there are important things to understand and ways to cope and hopefully heal.