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So good I bought it twice
on 24 November 2013
When I first opened the book version and read the introduction I thought the book had been written about me. I bought it again on kindle so that I could read it without my husband knowing, as he is still in denial of his aspergers. It is hard to live with a person when you are disappointed that your dream person has turned into the stuff of nightmares, but it becomes more possible when you read this book.
It does seem unfair that all of the compromise lies in the hands of the NT while the aspie gets away with atrocious behaviour (by anyone's standards other than their own) scot free. However, you have to judge whether you think it is worth it for the moments of shared intimacy and humour. I have developed a tool, whereby the harsh words are caught in a version of a child's duckie bib, and allowed to flow over me 'like water off a ducks back'.
You also have to remember that they are not choosing to behave badly to spite you, rather that for them, there is no other way.
I have also lent the book to a friend who says that it changed/saved her life.
So now I think this book was written FOR me rather than about me and that with practice I can help things to become more harmonious in our relationship - though it is still not easy, ever!