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  • Paperback: 176 pages
  • Publisher: Penguin; New Ed edition (30 Jan 2003)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0140294716
  • ISBN-13: 978-0140294712
  • Product Dimensions: 12.2 x 1.2 x 19.6 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 46,018 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Love may be a serious drug, but, as John Armstrong divulges in his artful, quietly impassioned treatise on its philosophical qualities, Conditions of Love, its intoxicating qualities can still be distilled and soberly considered. Armstrong, already the author of the discerningly reflective The Intimate Philosophy of Art, is proving himself the master of his form: elegant, scholarly studies that wear their learning lightly, but surely. In turning his focus from looking at art to the art of loving, he provides the perfect median between the two, and dissects what we perceive of as love, and how it stands up to our demanding preconceptions. With calm assurance, he leads us through the froth to the substance of its being, from the evasive nebulousness of its definition, to its place within an evolutionary framework, in doing so touching on theories of experimental psychology also considered by Geoffrey Miller in The Mating Mind. If that perhaps takes the romance out of love, then Armstrong argues that we need to, if we are to strip bare our adolescent notions to reveal a mature, sustainable version which will endure. Backing up his evocations with considered and illuminating reference to the best efforts of the writers and painters, from Plato, Ovid, Turgenev and Goethe, to Ruskin and Chardin, who contribute to our celebration, but also our stereotypes, of love, Armstrong argues for personal responsibility, and a rejection of the restless masochism which drives so many to seek out an idealised partner, or inadvertently seek refuge in the despair of infatuation. As his title puts it, love is best considered as conditional rather than existing as a precondition, and if handled altruistically, can reap the rewards the artists exalt. In marrying the carnal and the cardinal with a poet's sensibility and a philosopher's rigour, much as Alain de Botton did in Essays in Love, John Armstrong guides us towards a more mature, imaginative future, less rosy, but perhaps more rooted. Love may, ultimately, perhaps definingly, prove ineffable, but Conditions of Love charges us with the power to facilitate its bloom, and the inspiration to achieve it. --David Vincent --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.


“ The reader is attracted, amused, encouraged to respond, left fulfilled and eager for more” -- The Independent on Sunday

“ Wise, discursive…It is powerful and valuable” -- The Sunday Times

“Armstrong is perceptive and tender” -- The Evening Standard

“Armstrong’s tone is never patronising and touches on genuinely interesting points” -- Times Educational Supplement

“Wryly right” -- The Guardian --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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19 of 19 people found the following review helpful By N. Gilmartin on 4 Sep 2007
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I am puzzled by one of the negative reviews of this book: Armstrong does deal with jealousy, approaching it from an evolutionary psychological perspective; he does cross reference; his bibliography includes some of the most notable books written on love; and if he refers to 'females', at least he is consistent by referring to 'males' too. True, he doesn't cite texts on love written by women, and that is a shortcoming, but this lack certainly does not lead to a one-sidedness in his discussion of love. You may not be satisfied with what he says about all or some of these things, but at least do him the small honour of giving an accurate account of what the book contains.

I liked this book. I thought Armstrong did a good job of showing how our idea of love has evolved over the millennia, how revolutionary ideas such as evolution, Marxism and psychoanalysis have left indelible marks on our idea of what love is, enriching the concept while also making it increasingly more complex. All of this is done in a comprehensible language, with a logical structure, and easily manageable and sensibly divided chapters.

Armstrong's argument seems to be that there is no essence of love, and that to go in search of a hard and fast definition is doomed from the start and based on an error of thinking. Love is not any one thing, but a host of related things which are neither identical with each other nor legitimately reducible to something held in common. He shows the many aspects of love: friendly, parental, childish, long-term, passionate, unrequited, and so on. You are left ultimately with an impression of the complexity of the notion and the futility of the attempt to reduce it to one simple thing, an endeavour which the question 'What is love?' all too irresistibly invites.
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13 of 15 people found the following review helpful By MNT on 6 May 2004
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Great book on the question of love. It discusses the sources and condition of love from various aspects. It also writes about what does the way and whom we fall in love with says about us. It discusses and contrasts the question using many different schools of thought. Although it does not mention Jung's views on condition of love explicitly, it actually explains 'why do we fall in love?' from Jung's perspective as well. Insightful.
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By Scribula on 9 Nov 2014
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This book was very timely for me. A very compact and readable, but thorough, examination of this universal subject. Helped me enormously, and continues to have an influence.
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