When I was first introduced to this book, I was a little sceptical (Another marriage book? What's new??) but I am SO glad I bought it and read it. If your marriage is going fine, you will feel renewed confidence about its health. If it's not going so fine, you will find lots of answers about why things aren't going so well and how to make things better. You will find out why you and your partner feel and behave about certain things and how that's related to your childhood experiences, and what choices you can make about your behaviour to prevent conflicts from escalating, and to bring your marriage to a healthy and happy place.
There are questionaires that help you assess where you stand, and lots of references for further reading. I gained so much out of it I am going on to buy some of the other books referred to in this book. Highly recommended. Very readable and well organised and illustrated, and backed by lots of research. One long chapter is based on research by Dr Jeffrey Young on schema therapy, but if I hadn't read this book I wouldn't have known about schemas. And even if you have read Dr Jeffrey Young's book "Reinventing Your Life", you will still do well to buy this book because there are additional schemas that were not included in Dr Young's book which was written in the 1990s. One of the authors was trained by Dr Young.
There are scripture references but it is not at all preachy, so even if you are not a Christian, you can still read the book without the Scripture references and you will still get a lot out of it.
Do yourself and your loved ones a favour - buy it and read it
