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"Children of narcissistic parents are provided techniques to dig themselves out of impossible relationships with their parents...a thoroughly well thought out, useful manual to help adult children move toward more productive connection to their narcissistic parents, to themselves, and to others."
--Joan Medway, Ph.D., LCSW, psychologist in private practice in Potomac, MD
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Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of "Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed", this major revision of a self-help classic offers readers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent."Children of the Self-Absorbed, Second Edition", offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help readers identify the extent of their parent's problem. Readers learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, readers are assured that they are not helpless against their parent's behavior, and that they needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help fulfill the needs and expectations of both readers and their parents.
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122 of 124 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
With both my parents fitting the narcissism profile, I was eager to read this book as it was billed as being one of the best. The first two or three chapters, on how to recognise narcissistic behaviour and the reactions that narcissism tends to provoke in other people, were really excellent, but the rest of the book I found pretty disappointing.
The author has some frankly bizarre ideas about what empathy is (which is a bit worrying, considering she's supposed to be a therapist!). The "how to empathise" section tells you to pick a feeling (any feeling) that you yourself might feel in someone else's place, and then state to that person "You are feeling ...". The example she gives is that of a student asking "Should we study for the test?", and the teacher responding, "You are feeling overwhelmed and you have too much to do to study for the test". This isn't empathy, it's projection of one person's feelings onto another! Empathy is the ability to find out and respect what another person actually does feel, regardless of whether you yourself would feel that way in their place (e.g. actually asking a student whether they feel overwhelmed, not just grandly stating that this is what they feel!)
Also I found the exercises in the book a bit simplistic. This would be a good book for anyone just looking for ways to "keep the peace" with an N-parent, but for insight and healing I'd really recommend "When You And Your Mother Can't Be Friends" by Victoria Secunda instead.
22 of 22 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
Really not at all a good book to be diving into if you have suffered from the effects of being raised by narcissistic parents. It starts off pretty well and sucks you into a false sense of security as it outlines the basics of narcissism sufficiently. However as the book progresses the author adopts a blame attitude and assumes immediately that all readers, having been raised by narcissists, will also be narcissists themselves. This is very triggering if you have low self esteem which most children of narcissists will have. Statistically few children of narcissists turn into narcissists themselves so I really don't know what Brown thinks she's playing at. This book is really only suitable for those who feel they may be narcissists but if you do I doubt you'll be reading it so in one word bordering on a waste of time! She also has an utterly bizarre idea of what empathy is. If you are in a good place emotionally it might make for interesting reading but stay well way if you aren't. Way too dangerous.
38 of 39 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
At the age of 41 and after much self-examination I finally have answers to so many questions I have had for so many years. This book has helped me more than any other I have read to put my life into perspective and explain who I am, where I have come from and what has made me the person I am from a psychological perspective. As the daughter of a narcissistic mother I feel I finally have the insight I need to address some of the most challenging and difficult aspects of my life. In this book almost every paragraph spoke volumes to me and explained so much of my past life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. In the next edition please explain how same sex and different sex relationships between parents and children may alter the impact of the DNP.
A Reader, UK
A Reader, UK
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Good start for families
This was the first book I ever found about NPD and I would recommend it to anyone - it is not as indepth and academic as say Will I ever be good enough? Read more
Published 25 days ago by Enlightenme
reassuring and intelligent
I have had this book for some time, but recently re-read the first chapters after I felt I had to have contact with my narcissistic mother on the death of a close relative. Read more
Published 1 month ago by richard2
A very challenging read...
Lots of useful incites into narcism & the behaviours that the parent displays & the child uses to survive this situation, and why these behaviours are developed.
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Published 2 months ago by JoBlogs
Helped me masses
I got so much from reading this book, it gives examples of the many ways in which parental narcissism can show and affect children.
Published 6 months ago by The Scribbler
simplicity is best
I had a lot of problems with this book. First of all- there are virtually no REAL LIFE examples.The Narcissistic Family by Stephanie Donaldson is more useful because it's packed... Read more
Published 8 months ago by Vanessa
children of the self absorbed
A book to work through slowly. Practical help on how to identify destructive patterns inherited from narcissitic parents and thoughts on how to redeem the criticised child within. Read more
Published 12 months ago by A. Cowzer
Strange solution...
... the solution of this book is to limit contact. Like, duur, I could figure that one out myself.
Published on 27 Mar 2010 by GJH Williams
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I liked this book more than some others on the subject as it dealt with aspects of self-development and the future, rather than just helping to identify the problem. Read more
Published on 20 Mar 2007 by Pogdish
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