For my entire life I had felt different to everyone else. I truly believed that I could never be helped and that I was doomed into being insecure, neurotic, jealous, saddened, unstable, out-of-control with my emotions, unable to trust others and unable to trust my behaviour. I felt that "I knew" that there was irrepairable damage to my psychology, and that other people could be helped "but not me, that it had hurt me too much". Over the course of the 2 weeks that I put aside to read this book, I experienced about twenty different revelations about myself and the abuse that I endured. Blimey, it was a rollercoaster ride. This book was a book about my brain and my emotions. And this book was the one that got me about 80 percent of the way to being healed. It opened a floodgate, and at the time it was so incredibly difficult.
The book is absolutely ram-packed not only with explainations as to why the psychology of a sexually-abused person develops in the screwy way that it does, it is also full of other people's personal stories and that helped me not to feel isolated and alone along the journey. Sometimes a persons experience about how they felt during the 'dark times' was so uncannily similar to mine that it made me want to find that person and have them listen to me. This is a gem of a self-help book. Being English, it was also the only book that I could relate to, i.e. the use of language, the cultural references etc.
Five months on from first reading the book, I'm flying. I'm elated. And I'm still getting happier with every single new day.
This book is a must-buy. The book cannot help alone, however, it's the perfect companion whilst you go through essential psychological therapies (cognitive and behavioural). And it'll teach you so much about yourself and how sexual abuse hurt you that save you'll be able to speed up your treatment with a psychologist (therefore saving you a fortune in fees!!).