- Mass Market Paperback: 262 pages
- Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group; Reissue edition (Jan 1997)
- Language English
- ISBN-10: 0553260057
- ISBN-13: 978-0553260052
- Product Dimensions: 17 x 10.4 x 2 cm
- Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 497,926 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:
Why you can get addicted to a person.
Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")
How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.
How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.
Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."
How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.
How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.
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MAYBE THE SURGEON GENERAL hasn't determined it yet, but staying in a bad relationship may be dangerous to your health. Read the first page
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96 of 97 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
I read this book out of desperation. I bought this book to help me to completely let go of my past relationship with a man. Thing with me is that he actually left over 3 years ago, but i still get annoyed and hurt by what he did to me. I bought this book to help me understand what my problem is.
The book is very clear and simple to understand and gives examples of different types of attachments which sometimes lead to addiction. It also gives examples of different people and the way they feel about their partners. I think i was deffinately addicted to my ex. I have read this book once and it did make a lot of sense. I will read it again and do the practices in there. No book is a cure, but this is the only book i have read that made sense to me and actually showed what my attachment to my ex actually was. I recommend this book to anyone who is stuck in a relationship that is causing them too much pain yet they cannot leave and also to those people whose relationships have ended but they are still thinking about the past and not being able to move forward. It will help but the rest is upto us. We must be strong !
72 of 73 people found the following review helpful
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It is so rare to find a self help book that does exactly what it claims to do. But this one does. If, like me, you have been trying for years to break free from a relationship that you knew was wrong for you, but somehow cannot bring yourself to take that final step, buy this book. Finally, I was able to do what I needed to do. The book is very helpful at explaining some of the reasons why you might be addicted - when you recognise, and admit to those, you are half way there to making the break. But the book is not just about ending a relationship. Wisely, it acknowledges that there may be good things in the relationship, but that they will not become clear to you unless you learn to see the person as a whole human being, and not just the object of your addiction. The author is wise, without being judgemental. If you've worked your way through books like Robin Norwood's "Women who love too much", and recognised yourself in them, but still not been able to break free, try this book.
58 of 59 people found the following review helpful
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If you read this book thoroughly it can really help you. It focuses on if you or in an actual relationship but you can use it to work for you. i wasnt in a so called relationship but just kept going back to the same person who refused to commit and i couldnt let go or even comtemplate moving on. This book helped me to see into my feelings and after a while i began to realise what i was doing. the humiliation i consistently put myself through became less as i used this book to help myself find a way out. There are chapters that may be irrelevant if you are not in a serious relationship or married etc, but u dont need to be in either of those to be addicted to a person. One chapter from the book were i leant to write memos to myself relating to the person in question really helped me. you can use your feelings to write down reasons why you trap yourself in a dead end relationship with someone who, you will find in the end, is clearly not worth it. There is always hope and if you can persist with the grey times you'll be ok because the tunnel vision wont last forever.
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I have found, and am still finding, that this book is of great help and support.
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Each one of us thought we were unique, didn't we? In the book, and now in the reviews, we see we have been acting out a template. How sobering! Read more
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