This is one of the best books about BPD I've read. It's up-to-date, nonjudgemental, and above all balanced. The authors are compassionate towards those with BPD, but don't shy away from mentioning the devastating impact the disorder can have on loved ones. They provide a good overview of different theories about BPD, and different treatments that may help, acknowledging the strengths and weaknesses of each. They don't oversimplify anything, yet they take care to explain things in a way a lay person can understand. They stress the need for professional diagnosis and treatment, yet encourage the sufferer to take control by reading up on the disorder and learning some healthier coping skills.
The first half of the book provides information about BPD, including a discussion of possible causes, and an excellent chapter on the prospects of recovery. The authors not only believe that recovery from BPD is possible (and back up their opinion with recent research findings), they look at common obstacles to recovery, and explain which symptoms you can expect to improve first. The chapter on self-harm is also intelligent and sensitive, with a very good understanding of the different reasons why people may hurt themselves.
The second half of the book combines information on treatment with some self-help suggestions for dealing with suicidal thoughts and overwhelming emotions. One drawback here is that the information on accessing treatment - as you might expect from an American book - only refers to the US and Canada. However, the information on what different treatments involve and on how effective they are is excellent. The main treatments discussed are DBT, mentalisation-based therapy (which I hadn't even heard of) and medication. The coping strategies are drawn mainly from DBT and are a fantastic starting point. The authors also point you in the direction of further resources, namely
Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder (Diagnosis & Treatment of Mental Disorders).
I really recommend this book as a source of information, hope and coping strategies for all those affected by BPD.