i'm a wreck. some films you can talk about everything that worked and everything that didn't, and some films just duck under your guard and knee you in the balls. this hit me on every primal level. it is a true, beautiful, awful, horrendously, tremendously accurate portrayal of relationships. possibly more so than any film i've ever seen. i cried at least twice, which kind of freaked me out.
this is the third ryan gosling film i've seen, and that was one of the reasons it sat on my shelf for a while. the first was the notebook. pile of crap. but i'm blaming the film for that - there was no saving it. the second was drive. pile of crap. and for that i at least partly blame gosling. his performance, for me, was utterly terrible.
this was different class. he was amazing. part of the problem is that he was best as the aged gosling. the flashbacks, where he's the gosling of now, weren't as good as the later gosling. i think he's gonna come into his own in about fifteen years. i know it's only about seven or eight in the film, but they aged him at least fifteen... anyway, he was superb, just superb, as was michelle williams. i get the feeling you're meant to split the blame equally, or not at all, but i definitely sided with him. but i think that's the problem. i think most of my exes would side with the girl. it rang very true, unfortunately. as a workshy immature drunk, i have everything gosling had here, except for the looks and charisma. lots and lots of flashbacks all the way through - it was a painfully true film, especially as i have a kid with my ex, and when he walked away, pushing the kid back towards the mum, it was a bit too close to home.
i enjoyed them getting together. all films that have to show couples getting together either have to do it the hollywood "too good to be true" route, or it's sometimes painful to watch, in that they're not good enough - it's not real enough. it was just right here.
i haven't really structured this review, haven't really made much of it at all, but it's a fantastic film. not one i'll watch again in a hurry, but one i'm glad i've watched.
it's got the same name as one of my favourite tom waits songs. glad to see they didn't screw it up :) worthy of the name.