As a counselor, I was looking for a film to share with a client in the hope that it would help him develop some insight. I was basically familiar with LaPaglia's work in "Without A Trace," where the character is a nurturing, grumpy, teddy bear sort of person, so I did wonder how he might translate into an abuser. Yikes. This is the most realistic study I've seen of the thinking and actions of an abusive person, the rationalization. His performance is powerful, extremely unsettling. Family court judges ought to require this film for every domestic abuse case they see, so people can see themselves. It might effect some change in them. Mary Stuart Masterson's character is fascinating also, true to life, brings out the impossible situation she's in when deciding what to do. A film that leaves you with the feeling of having experienced the abuse, too. Gives an understanding of the total situation in abusive realtionships.