Gay sex lacks paradigms - it lacks EXAMPLES. You might not want to get involved in the whole "bottom" or "top" scene, but that doesn't mean that you want to have sex as an "equal". In fact I can't think of anything worse than two people undertaking a responsible and calmly thought out reasonable act of sex, or sexual relationship. WHAT WOULD BE THE POINT?! It would be like junk food. Neil Bartlett provides an archetype for a new kind of relationship - a deconstructed relationship with power relationships and contradictions, but THANK GOD, no compromises. This book is astonishing in that it draws you into a plot that is moving, but more importantly into a relationship that is fundamental, new, exciting, transgressive and yet equal (in its own way). In no way is this a trashily sentimental or sexy book. Nor is it at times an easy book to read. But christ bounce on me, it's a bloody brilliant one...