Loved this book so much! It gave me lots of info that brought my experiences,thoughts, intuition and knowladge together.
I found myself contantly saying Thats what it is! meaning that I have worked with children parents complex and otherwise and had seen that it was the parents or childs perception of what was happening or how they perceived it to be going to happen, that informed thier every day life and at times caused adults to maltreate children. The affects on this of a childs attachment to a care giver is what this book is essentially about.
The meatyness of this book was so satisfying. it has been a long time since I have read a book that has met my needs as a worker and my desire as a person to understand more about attachment and move on, the information that Bowlby gave us.
This book also talks about the reality of work with Maltreating parents and the outcome for children of living with such care. I have found it has spurred me on to try and offer more to the parent's, to undertand the internal working model of the child and the parent. Yet I have also had a determination to evidence my reports in such a way that means that the long term outcomes and affects on children of a lack in their attachment should be clearly understood and acted upon in some cases.
I am very lucky to be booked into a two day training cource by the author which will no doubt give me another feast.