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insecurity or blessings?
on 8 February 2011
Joyce Meyer believes there is an epidemic of insecurity and low self-esteem in our society today which has led to people needing a `fix' of approval from others. She believes it is God's will for each of us to feel secure so that we can receive the blessings and joy God intends for us - that this security should be based on knowing who we are in Christ, in accepting God's unconditional love and in accepting ourselves with all our weaknesses and imperfections, recognising that when God looks at believers he sees the righteousness of His Son Jesus, not everything wrong with us or that we have done wrong. She states that insecurity comes from focusing on your weaknesses and this book aims to help readers to find their approval in Christ; to accept who they are; to deal with things that hinder walking with God and others; and find wholeness in God and be free from the addiction to approval.
The style of writing is quite `wordy', and uses lots of terms that would probably be unfamiliar to the un-churched though she does attempt to explain some of these, there are lots of Bible quotes with bracketed add-ins that prevent smoothness of reading.
The book seeks to help readers to
* Understanding what approval addiction is
* To accept themselves for who they are and to learn to love themselves
* To address the addiction and associated emotions
* To break behavioural patterns and move on to the future
A few points she makes in the book:
* God does not expect perfect behaviour (sending Jesus to save us from our sins shows us this) but desires a heart that seeks to please Him
* Often it is us who need to let go of the past that God has already forgiven (She uses the examples of the lives of biblical characters to show that the past can be forgiven and that we can move on with God).
* How we are now is a result of our life experiences - which may cause behaviours we don't understand
* We are not honouring God if we allow people to manipulate us and deny the free will God gave us. It does not help them or us.
* If you have God that's all you need, He knows if you need anything else and promises to provide it
* Hurting people hurt people - we need to pray for our enemies
* She also suggests we need to
o face our fears, not run from them
o act on the Word of God rather than how we feel
o be understanding of and understood by others
o tell ourselves God's truths in the process of renewing our minds (as in Romans 12 v 2)
o have such a relationship with God that others want what we have got
o change from one addiction to another - to become `addicted to God' - so that he becomes the new focus of your life
There are chapters dealing with fear, knowing (and loving) yourself, righteousness, guilt & shame, anger & un-forgiveness, `people-pleasing', past rejections, using your pain...
In summary - it really doesn't matter what we do in life - married or single, friends many or few, high powered job or not, etc - all that matters is that we accept the gift of Jesus and have a heart that wants to please God, and that we try to live that out - everyday - forever!