Normally, I would not dignify the so-called reviews of my book by BcWendel or Dave Badger by posting a response. However, when one spends two years of his life writing a book that two people wrote about, but obviously didn't read I have no choice but to set the record straight. Starting with Mr. Bc Wendell who says that my tips for a physical makeover sucked and were lame. The tips on the physical makeover section of the book are not meant to make everyone look the same. They are however a common sense guide to what is and what is not in style at the moment. I wonder exactly which style and hygiene tips Mr. Wendal takes issue with. Was it that we encourage people to clean their nails, remove long strands of hair from their ears and nose, discourage flashy diamonds and gaudy gold jewelry, or was it our disparaging remarks about the mullet.
Moving on-Mr. Wendel states that the parts about meeting people are "dumb." First, Mr. Wendel states that he has never known anyone to have gone on a blind date. According to New York Magazine over 43% of the people they've polled have been on blind dates as a single person. That's almost 1 in 2 people Mr. Wendel. As for online dating being a "horrible scam." Over 10 million single people a year use the internet now to meet new people to date. Personally, I know many couples who have met and married through internet dating sites. Internet dating is not a scam and is a healthy modern way for busy adults to meet other adults.
As for the dialogue for meeting people on the streets seeming fake-again, I wonder what Mr. Wendel takes issue with. Is it a mature adult man being able to walk up to a mature woman and say, "Hello. My name is BC Wendel. I saw you, thought you looked interesting and wanted to introduce myself?" If someone is too shy to make such a direct approach, we have provided alternatives such as the indirect approach whereby a person can ease into conversation by using their surroundings and environment. For instance, a man shopping in a supermarket can look at a woman holding a bag of coffee and say, "I tried that brand. It's good. However, if you haven't tried this brand, you should. It's great." By using the coffee as a prop, the man can easily segue into a conversation with the woman, and for those shy people out there, it is a good icebreaker.
Moving on to Mr. Dave Badger. Again, he goes to the Physical Makeover chapter where he states: "basically it says to find someone with good fashion sense to advise." The book's Physical Makeover section runs from page 37 to page 75 and is divided up into sections regarding Grooming, Personal Hygiene, and Fashion. Then, under each section, there are numerous subsections which go into a tremendous amount of detail about how to care for yourself and how to dress in way that never goes out of style. Although I respect Mr. Badger's opinion, I think he must have missed something. The Blind Dating section which Badger says simply says we say, "go on Blind dates" is also a fabrication. The Blind dating section begins on Page 81 and ends on page 95 and gives very detailed examples of how to initiate blind dates complete with dialogued scenarios. I don't know what book Mr. Badger was reading, but it sure wasn't mine. Badger goes on to say that "I expected more detail on starting a conversation with a stranger, but the best he can come up with is a few paragraphs with gems such as "Hi, you're beautiful" or "Say, that's a nice bracelet."" Page 95 to roughly 215 is filled with one example after another about how to meet new people to date. Numerous scenarios are given that people can use. They are there to jog the reader's creativity and can be used in similar situations. Tell a woman you see that she has a nice bracelet on her arm is a way to start a conversation with a stranger. It is a segue into other areas of conversation such as what is it made out of, where did she get it, does she like jewelry, where can I get one for my sisters birthday, does she like Italian jewelry or French jewelry, has she ever traveled to Italy or France, if so where has she stayed and what restaurants has she eaten in, if not would she like to go and what places has she traveled to. Asking a woman about her bracelet or complimenting her bracelet is just a way into a conversation-the rest is up to you. As for being no more insightful than your mom. He's right. Moms are filled with common sense. That is basically what I preach in this book-common sense. Unfortunately, in our modern world, common sense has been lost. Mr. Badger would like you to read "The System" by Roy Valentine. How sad that when it comes to meeting new people for love and passion people shun common sense and instead fall for deception and manipulation in books like The System or The Rules. Should words like system and love even be in the same sentence?