This book is a wonderful read for a person who has had a string of unsuccessful relationships and feels that the problem is everyone else! This is a book that will lead anyone to a greater level of maturity and understanding about love and how they love and how the way they love affects others. You really get an understanding of the pattern that is created by an emotional needy person and why they need and crave this love in an unhealthy way. For anyone who is dependant or codependent and may not even realize it, this is a great eye opener that helps you to look at your family history and how you perhaps were not really raised in a household that gave you that attention, validation, and emotional awareness you needed. So now you are an emotionally regressed adult looking for what you did not get growing up in relationships with not only lovers but friends. You are determined to make it work even when its not a good situation to be in. I think this read will bring anyone into self awareness and help them to be aware of others. I had to learn the difference between healthy love and unhealthy love, especially if you got some confusing messages growing up. Some people don't know they are codependant, because they are really successful and independant, people come to them for advice, but get them in a relationhip behind closed doors and the needy weak inner-child comes out. This is a MUST for everyone our society does not focus on this topic enough, however we focus in on the results of love addiction suicide, shopaholics, stalkers, serial daters (no break between relationships), substance abuse, trying to be perfect for love at all costs, people who feel victimized because they keep running into the same type of emotionally unavailable person. It's all in here. Love addicts: After reading this book its important to find things that validate you and make you happy a hobby, exploring talents, something that does not cost money (nothing you can show off about). Some counseling and journaling and you can beat this! Oh and do not forget to evaluate your complete circle and walk away from some friendships, you may even have to distance yourself from unhealthy family members. Don't feel guitly its your life! Enjoy